My fiancé isn't ready to have kids?? Should I

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Okay, so my finace is almost 30 and we are getting married this month. I was talking with him about having A CHILD (not "kids" like he keeps saying). I wanted to start trying after my birthday next year so around March or April. But he seems to think that having "kids" will lead to us divorcing and me putting him on child support.... WHAT???? I was furious , you trust me enough to want me to be your wife but not t make this Marraige work with a child? We have worked through so many other problem and I just can't believe. What should u do? What do I say? I know he loves me and wants to down the rest of his life with me and I do to but his mind is thinking I'm asking him to have 4 kids in the next 4 years and that's not the case. I just want 1. It would be the first for both of us... Should I make him make a choice and give me a time frame?

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If he doesn't want kids and you do, leave. If he needs more time to figure it out, then postpone the wedding. You shouldn't be getting married if you don't agree with what you want for your future.

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Maybe he wants to adjust to being married first. Ask him. Ask if he plans on never having kids or if its just something for the next few years

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I would talk to him and figure out if he wants kids at all. Maybe he just doesn't want them right away.  But if he doesn't want any at all, I think you should move on before y'all get married.  If you really want kids, it's not fair to expect to never have any  because he doesn't want them and you will regret it your whole life if you pretend you don't care and stay with him.

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It sounds like he wants to be married to you for awhile before having any kids. This is smart. My husband and I waited 4 years before trying. Just enjoy your marriage and bring it back up next year.

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Does he not want kids at all or does he not want kids right now? Because both scenarios yield very different answers.

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I'm in a similar situation and all I can do is tell you what I did. I've decided that I love my fiance. He loves me and I know that he does want a family eventually. I was talking about children all the time for a while and this led to do many fights I honestly thought we would break up. But I've learned to stop and decided to do something about the things he worries about (not having enough money and things like that) I've just recently got my dream job and we're planning a holiday to Canada in 2015 as well as having a look at new houses. And guess what? The other day he brought up the idea of us having kids in the next year. 
I hope sharing my experience is helpful I know that everyone's lives are different so you have to do what is right for you.

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I didn't want to wote. It needs to be your decision how you go from here but him saying you want this to get child support from him? It sounds like you guys have a loot to work through before talking about having kids. I hope all works out for you.

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Does he never want kids? If that's the case you can't force someone into fatherhood if they have no desire to be a father. If want children in the future than you should leave him. Couples that want completely different futures will not have a successful marriage.
If, on the other hand, he wants children but not within the next year than you should stay with him and come up with a timeline that works for the both of you.
Pressuring him into having children will do nothing positive for your relationship

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If he doesn't want children don't ever expect him to change his mind and know that there is truly no compromise, no matter who loses on this, resentment will build. You're both better off finding someone that's compatible in the long run. There's nothing wrong with having no desire for kids, there's nothing to "fix", it simply is what it is and if you love him you need to respect that.

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I wouldn't marry someone who didn't want kids.
It will forever eat at your relationship

My fiancé isn't ready to have kids?? Should I

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