I need every opinion!

What do you girls believe do you believe that you are born "gay" or is it a choice? I need to know because I was just in a big argument about this I say you are born gay. Now I'm not saying you don't have a choice to pick what to do like be gay and do what people call "the wrong way to live" or be gay but lie to everyone around while your living a unhappy life because you are with someone who you dont wanna be with. I really wanna hear from everyone if you read this tell everyone why you feel the way you feel