Okay so the last 4 days I've been away visiting my mum and dad on thurs/fri/sat, then went to my MILs on Sat evening and left sun evening. Anyways, it was nice visiting my mum and dad, they love seeing their grandbaby and have bought him so many toys for him there, and despite the fact they just sold their house and are moving to the other side of victoria in the next fortnight everything was presentable, had cooked meals, and they actually played with him etc. Anyways i go to my MILs, my fiancé had gone down the day before with his sister, so upon us arriving it was Him, his mum, his older sister and his little brother(13), THEN his older sister picks up her son from his other grandparent's house (he lives with them permenantly) who is an austistic 8 year old.....so full house, we dont have many opportunities to see her maybe once every 4-8weeks (or my parent's which is even less because my fiance doesn't like them even though they have never once done anything wrong to hi, but you would be horrified by how hard his mum tried to drive a wedge between us for the first 3 yrs of our relationship) but her older grandson lives right around the corner pretty much.....so she has no toy's there for our son....none just toys for her older one, she spent the brunt of the time either napping or playing with the older grandson, we had to buy an air matress for my SIL to use with her son. Anyways it was very borning, crowded, the SIL, BIL my fiance and nephew all went pokemon hunting but thats the most action they got, my son just played his 3DS the whole time because he was bored. Worse was my fiance and his mum went out to get dinner with my son, and took a long time. During which i witnessed my SIL still being a crap mum (we lived in shared living while i was pregnant until our son was 5 month's at which point she drove us insane and we moved out) seriously her poor son, she's very distant and doesn't have any compassion, she kept asking him questions like what's your middle name and stuff and he was getting upset because he couldn't remember some things, he would go red and look angry and say i can't remember and ask her to stop and stop asking questions but she just kept going he was getting so upset! After all he has speech impedimemts and is autistic but instead of telling him it is okay if he can't remember and reassuring him she just kept hounding and saying "your 8 you should know your middle name" etc.....it's fucking awful to watch! My fiancé even said that when they where out Pokémon hunting he tried to hold her hand when crossing the road but she brushed him of and held his wrist instead! Its like ffs i know you aren't the hugging/touching type but seriously you are his mother hold his damn hand accross the road it is your responsibility to keep him safe. She was awful when we lived with her i wanted to call CPS! And she made our lives miserable too. Can't stand being around her. Furthermore, i don't get what my MIL did wrong she was a hard working single mum, but her kids are so disrespectful to her! They make a mess (yes 22 and 26 year old grown adult's) off her house i got there and it was a mess and while they where out and she was napping, i cleaned it all up(I'm a little OCD so her house drove me crazy) took out the trash, tidied the living room and kitchen and the spare room but seriously why do they treat their mother's house like that?! I grew up in a feral upbringing my mum used to abuse drugs and alcohol and everything but even i never leave her house a mess! Also i was literally the only one who thanked her for having us! Her daughter blatantly said i never thank her because she should be greatful or something like that (insinuating it is a priveledge to have them visit), to which my fiancé agreed, which my MIL said she is....i feel awful for her, they are so ungreatful for her!! If i had half the life she gave her kids I'd be thankful! I suffered so much abuse growing up, and i never treat my parent's this way, i almost wanted to polish her whole house top to bottom while there just to show her a little appreciation which she deserves despite how she behaved when i first got with her son (this was actually relevant to my crappy upbringing, i was a foster kid due to my parents neglect when i met her son, she works for the department of human services so assumed i was degenerative and not good enough for her son kind of thing). Sad thing is she has something personal that could be life threatening she's having investigated my fiancé informed me last night, i told him you will let me know how she goes right? I hope it's nothing serious, but you know I'll be here for you AND your mum if it is......and he replied "why? She doesn't deserve kindness from you after all she put you through..." i was gob smacked, she made her mistakes but she's family, i won't let either of them go through anything alone! Sorry its long i just needed to get it of my chest and talk with anonymity. What a weekend sigh