So is this falling apart for us?

Question

I've been with my husband for close to five years we have beautiful children, but a rough relationship. For the last 61/2 months I haven't been sexually attracted to him and can't get the guts up to tell him to "tone up". His weight wasn't such a problem when we got together considering he is a BIG man of 6'4" 315lbs. But being a small woman I can't comfortably have sex any more, he's told me he's lost a little currents weighing 460lbs. But it is shedding so slowly, should I be patient and see or should I say something to him?

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I would have said something by now.

Sex is really important to me and honestly, at that weight he's walking a dangerous line. You and your kids could lose him.

A big guy is one thing. My brother is 6'5 but 240. Your husband needs to really kick it into gear for himself, his health, your children, and your marriage.

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If it's been 5 years and a baby later - I'm sure you can tell him how you're feeling- perhaps make it a point that the whole family takes walks after dinner or kick a ball around/whatever - just let him know you're feelings about the situation, but be willing to help him achieve this goal. If that doesn't work a vibrator can ususally get the job done (kidding, but seriously)

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Thanks girls I'll try some of these! 😊 have a wonderful day!

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Girl, dlife.com. My dad is diabetic and he started cooking recipes off this website, and he seriously dropped weight so fast but in a healthy way. All he did was eat food from the recipes off the website, and walk. That's it. It's a website for diabetics and you honest to god, cannot tell its for diabetics. There's all kinds of food on there so he would suspect anything is fishy or weird going on. It has all the health info for the recipes too. I'd start there and then talk to him about going on family walks. And if none of that helps for some reason, I'd just be like, man, you're in an unhealthy relationship with food and I'm really worried that you won't be around much longer for me or our kids and it's really scaring me.

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Weight is such a sensitive topic and I can see how hard this must be for you. I'd start by doing things to help him indirectly, such as cooking super healthy meals at home for him and asking him to come out on walks and such with you and doing workouts with him at home. You could even pretend it's about you and say you want to tone up and ask him to do it with you to help your motivation. If all else fails, you're going to have to talk to him. He needs to be healthy to be there for his family! Hopefully by doing it subtly it'll be enough for him to make the changes he needs for the weight to start coming off.

So is this falling apart for us?

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