Husband and I disagree

So, back in February, I had a miscarriage. We'd tried for 10 years to get pregnant. We were both (along with our families) devastated. But my husband took it very very hard. He tried to be strong for me, which I think actually made it harder for him. So, in a effort to protect him, I told my husband that if/when I got pregnant again, I wasn't going to tell him until it was 'safe'. He says it's not fair to him and that I shouldn't keep him out of the loop. I want to protect him and I feel that since I'm the one that physically went through it and will be again if it happens, that I should be able to suffer in silence so that no one else has to feel that pain with me. What would you do, what have you done?