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I  gave birth 3 weeks ago. I am sleep deprived, sick of changing diapers and my baby takes an hour to finish the bottle...he wont latch on breast since he was born at 35.5 weeks.

I feel tired, sleepy and irratible. I also feel guilty for not being able to breastfeed (I am sick of pumping breast milk so I give mostly formula now). When he cries I get angry at him when he is just an innocent baby... I have friends that have babies and are always saying "motherhood is great, I LOVE my baby so much" ...but howcome I don't feel that way fully, I just feel neutral...like I can't believe I have my own baby.

Can anyone relate, will things get better???

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Every woman Is different sounds like you are suffering from pp. post depression a lot of woman go through it you may need to speak to a doctor they will help

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Do you have any family members that can come and stay over night for a few nights? Or even once a week and give you the night off? I think what you're experiencing is totally normal and I think some of your friends are probably lying and most are putting on a brave face and just sharing the good stuff. Motherhood is hard, especially adjusting to it at the beginning. And sleep deprivation is no joke. There's no shame in asking for help.

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I felt that way with my first child. I was overwhelmed. One motto that helped me through it big time was "one thing at a time". Don't think hours or days ahead. Just think of what you and baby need at the moment (bottle, nap, bath). Also see if you can get the dad, family, or even a friend to help you out a little bit. While someone watches your baby for a few hours, catch up on some sleep, take a relaxing bath, and don't worry too much about chores for now. It may seem super hard now, but it WILL level out and get easier. And definitely do bring it up to your doctor as well. It's totally normal and there are ways to help. Wishing you the best.

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Check into postpartum depression.

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I felt like that after my son was born. Went through the whole pumping and not latching stuff too but It's gets better I promise! Being a new parent is ROUGH!! If  you have anyone who can help with the baby definitely ask for it!

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Maybe you are having post part depression. Aka your doctor, I was feeling the same way.

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This is normal. Your hormones are leveling out. I used my placenta when this happened and it helped so much. If you are not breastfeeding anymore research progesterone.... your body may have become estrogen dominant quickly after baby. We produce 3 different varieties of progesterone while pregnant. It is possible that you have to much estrogen to quickly. Even a little progesterone cream may help unless you saved your placenta.

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Adjusting to a baby is rough, especially if there's feeding issues. Your friends I'm sure experience hardships and are really good at saving face. I had an incredibly hard time adjusting for about the first three months, but I knew I had PPD that I wasn't dealing with appropriately. If you have concerns, talk to your Dr. Even if it isn't PPD, they can still help and point you in the right direction for support. Hang in there, it'll let up.

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Sounds like postpartum, I had it with my last baby#2 - I would definitely get put on some depression meds until your hormones are back in tack. It is nothing to be ashamed of, and it's just because of an imbalance. It happens and is often untreated, and no one ever talks about it. The stigma is hard to deal with. But believe me, you need to be 100% so you can take care of your baby. It is normal. You do need to talk to your doctor about it. Call and make an earlier appointment or call and talk to the nurse. Everyone handles childbirth differently. Chin up!!

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I'm still pregnant with my first, so I'm not by any means an expert, but I'd recommend you talk to your doctor about how your feeling. It could be due to post partum depression, which happend to my friend a few years back and was quite painful for her. She had similar feelings of disconnect and guilt and anger. Long story short, there are medicines you could try, or at least it might help to talk to a professional. I'd recommend calling your doctor about it. There is no shame! It is quite common! There are also online sites to help with post partum depression where you can chat with other moms with similar feelings. It helped my friend a lot. I will definitely be taking advantage of it need be. You don't need to go through this alone!!!

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