I recently found out that a  friend has been having lots of problems in her marriage. One thing concerns me the most, is that she has told me how she has been having sex with her husband without any desire. She just lays there waiting for him to finish. She doesn't lube and it becomes painful. He gets it done and goes to sleep. I told her that is abuse. She then reply that how could it be abuse if she's married and says 'yes' to the act.