sleep training anyone?

Question

I tried cry it out methods and I just couldn't do it. My heart broke when my baby was catching her breath when I finally picked her up. We tried multiple nights. I can deal with a little whining but not hysterical crying. I don't judge anyone that does this method im jealous of people that have followed through and had success. I just want to know if there is anyone that has had success with any other methods that didn't include crying for hours? One night when trying the sleep easy solution it took two hours to get my baby to sleep and it only happened after I consoled her and picked her up which is a no-no in the book.

My baby falls asleep nursing but this is now a sleep association and I'm still waking in the night to nurse her back to sleep. She started rolling onto her tummy and waking in the night but I posted that in another topic and that's a whole other issue. Lol.

Basically I'm exhausted. I thought the newborn sleep pattern phase was over lol.

Any ideas? Thanks ladies!

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Personally I have chosen not to try and train my babies to sleep more like adults. 
I know that sentence might sound condescending. I sincerely don't mean it that way. It really is just what I decided to do.

Babies aren't wired to self soothe or sleep through the night.

There is tons of info about what is actually developmentally appropriate for babies sleeping patterns. Waking is appropriate. Needing to be nursed or soothed to sleep is appropriate.

The majority of babies do not sleep through the night at 6 months. About half wake at night at 12 months.

I got my best sleep as a parent when I chose to let my babies act like babies. I nurse them to sleep. I nurse them when they wake at night. I also chose bed sharing while they were nursing at night. They sleep more and so do I. That may not all work for every family. But I really think it takes the stress off to adjust expectations.

From a great collection of studies on kellymom:

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Jalyla (now 7 months old) used to sleep every night from midnight till 730 am and go back to sleep after eating and sleep till noon but all the sudden about 5 months she started staying up till 5 am sometimes and sleeping all day but I work 8-5 so I was never getting rest because she was only sleeping while I was working but she has been sleeping alittle better and we co slept last night and she did alittle better but just praying she gets on a schedule again nothing really changed but she just got later and later going to bed lol but good luck mommy and we will cherish these days when they are teenagers :)

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I tried CIO and feel guilty about it. We lasted 3 nights. Twice.  Now I feed her to sleep. She still wakes twice.  But I get that she needs comforting to sleep, they aren't robots. I need to watch TV or read to sleep so if my daughter needs a bit of comforting so be it.

The nights she wakes more than twice I really want to make her CIO but I know I can't handle the guilt again.

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i've never tried to CIO method sndo don't plan on it. my daughter still wakes up every 1.5-2 hours at night but i get at least 7 hours of sleep and she gets at least 11. we bed share, making things way easier. she nurses and back to bed for the both of us.

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I'm no help but I hear ya on not being a me to do Cio. I wish I could! It's just way to hard for me to hear my baby cry that hard

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I mean I ding have much advice other than you are not alone at least lol! My son is 7months old and has not slept through the night once. Idk if it's because he is breastfed but he wakes up prob every 2 hours

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Hi :) I have an Ellie too born a few days before yours. We transitioned out of the magic Merlin when she started to roll in it at 5.5 months. The first three nights in the sleep sack were ROUGH. Woke every 1.5 hours stuck on her stomach because at that point she wasn't rolling stomach to back- only back to tummy. Once she figured out that roll, she started to calm down at night. During those bad 3 nights though. I'd go in. Flip her back to her back. Stick the paci in. And rub her tummy. When it happened 1.5 hours later, I'd let her cry 5-10 min. Then do the same thing. Eventually she got used to her stomach and now rolls straight on it every night and sleeps wonderfully (almost every night for 11-12 hours). I know this isn't much help or advice but maybe some hope that it'll get better !! Just may take some time

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My baby only sleeps through the night if she's sleeping with me. I'm pregnant again and I know she won't be able to do it for much longer 😢 she cries so hard and gets so worked up when I put her in the crib at night, during the day it's okay. I think maybe she's afraid of the dark or too used to sleeping with us? I feel so bad 😕

sleep training anyone?

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