no sex :(

Kate
My fiancé and i don't have sex very often. He doesn't have a high sex drive at all, and he gets really anxious and embarrassed when having sex so it just turns him off ever wanting it. I don't have a high sex drive but I definitely want it more than once a month 😭 
Does anyone have any ideas on how to get him more comfortable? I feel like I've tried everything. 
He's not bad in bed at all (best oral I've legit ever had in my life) and I've never been told I'm bad in bed (told quite the opposite 😂) 
He knows he needs to try but he just doesn't, he knows I masturbate and I never throw that in his face because I actually find it relaxing to do it haha. Ideas though??