THROWING AT BABY SHOWER FOR SOMEONE WHO CANT ATTEND??

   Mind you I haven't spoke to her in 2 years, her choice. And we had a baby shower close to where they live 4 States away for both of our Families to attend and his Family didn't come. We live in FL and I am 8 Months Pregnant and she made this invitation and sent it out to people without talking to us first and we can't go to it seeing how she is throwing it at her home 3 States away! So my husband replied back that we can't come back up there (seeing how we went up in July) and she said I figured you wouldn't come back up before having the baby. We will just have it without you and maybe you can FaceTime afterwards...🤔 Who throws someone a baby shower when they can't attend and they refused to attend the one they did have for their Families? 

   She turned her back on my husband and I when he left for Deployment and was there for his Ex Wife instead who cheated on him and got pregnant with her boyfriends baby! That's why they got a divorce. They have a daughter together. But that doesn't give his Mom a reason to do what she did to us and she did a lot of shady shit while he was Deployed with the Ex that caused nothing but drama and left me with many sleepless nights wondering what I did wrong to make her act this way towards us. 

   2 years later I am over trying with her and being nice when she just ignores me and goes to his Ex. Now I'm pregnant with our 1st baby and NOW at 8 Months she wants to text me? And throw me a shower I can't attend but couldn't come to the one we did invite her to and held a dinner at his Grandparents (her parents) in their State to give them a chance to make up not coming to the Shower and they didn't throw us one then. Instead, we bought dinner for everyone and my MIL ignored us the whole time, except for my step daughter, was the only one who did not say Thank You for dinner, and turned her back to us while she ate facing the kitchen sink and looked out the window. Then threw a little fit and stormed out and left. Instead of trying to wipe the slate clean and apologize for her behavior the last 2 years. Am I wrong not to want anything to do with this?? We had a shower where we live and up State for our Families to attend, which again his did not come to. I feel like she is doing this for show. To make herself look good.