Am I Wrong?

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So I officially ended a relationship I was in for some time. I packed up a left someone I loved because of emotional & physical abuse.

Although I wanted us to experience this together, there was no real support. Of course, once I broke things off I became every "BITCH" in the book. Smh.... He even threatened me & our unborn life. A week later I found out I had a STD... I confronted him and he blamed it on me. I've never cheated tho... But I told him I was considering thinking of other names for our unborn than the one we decided on when together. He said if I do change his child name from a JR, he won't have relations with him at all (which hurts). My reasoning is my loyalty is no longer to him, as he was NEVER loyal to me. He fucked up by giving me a STD & harming our child. I'm so mad at myself because I seen the signs of him cheating, but i never questioned him. I don't want to feel as if I'm making a huge mistake by naming my son after him nor' do I want people to think I changed the name out of spite... Am I wrong? I need opinions... My baby is due Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a>!

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No ur not wrong! My son is a junior and I knew we weren't gonna work out before I had him but did it anyway. He's still not in my child's life so now he's name after a man who doesn't give a damn about him. TBH I don't think ur ex ever planned on being there for u and ur child because if he did he wouldn't let something like a name keep him from it.

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I could never name my son after a man like that.

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Even if you keep the name JR. That wont make him be a father. As you said he already threatened your unborn childs life with giving you an STD. Looks to me you already have your answer. Me personally wouldn't name my child a JR. to have to say or see the parents name all the time who wouldn't be there for my kid wasn't ideal to me.  Same with the last name if you give your child your last name it wont change the dna regardless of what dude says he wont do. Good luck.

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I don't think you're wrong at all for leaving you have to do what's best for your unborn child as far as naming him after your ex I wouldn't. When you name your child you want to name your child after someone and something important, the naming of a child is everything. If he doesn't want a relationship with the baby that's his problem you just have to focus on you and your child. I kid cannot miss something they never had and it sounds like he's a real piece of work and I wouldn't even want to have a baby with someone like that. Wish you the best a lot and know that God is with you and every step of the way. Stay strong sweetheart.

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Nane the kid whatever YOU want and record that fuckers threats to take to court.  Good luck.

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Do what your gut is telling you. If you were only naming him a JR because the guy pressured you, then thats not right. If he chooses to have no relationship with his child, that's his loss. & if he's threatening your life, FUCK what his opinions are on the name. He obviously had other priorities anyway if he went & got an STD & gave it to you. 
Love your baby & do what you think is right. Dont stress over him. Its a shame he has to be so immature. A DNA test would prove any doubt & he'll probably end up paying child support anyway.

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You are not wrong. Name your baby whatever YOU want. He doesn't deserve a JR at this point and you just may regret it later.

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No you are not wrong that is his loss !! You don't deserve someone who is going to put you and y'alls unborn child in danger and going to call you out your name and be disrespectful he's acting like a little boy if he wanted to be with you he wouldn't have messed around so I don't blame you for leaving and changing the baby's name cause if you keep it as the jr your gonna have that feeling of him cheating and giving you a std every time you say your baby's name you deserve the best not the worst so go live your life hunny and you will find a man who will love you for you and will only want you !!!!! Just believe !! You deserve the best for you and your baby

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Of course you're not in the wrong!! If he's willing to ditch his child completely over a name then I hate to say it but maybe he isn't the kind of father you'd want him to have. I personally would run very very far with my child if my man told me he would for any reason not speak to the kid. I wouldn't want my kid being forced into a situation where one day his dads there and one day he's not you know? I know many many many people who say they wish they had never met their dad because he found reason after reason to just abandon them anyway. Get away from this dude and love your little one. Do it all for him. Best of luck, love sent your way!!

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I kno were in from a child with fathers name / last name gives him more rights like he can come and take him anytime and they can't do anything

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