Why does not one want me?

Question

Even when I can get a date they cancel. every guy I've ever liked has made fun of me or doesn't want me. I'm sick of people telling me to just wait the right ones out there and those people don't even understand how lonely it is to have never had anyone ever. No sex I can get over but no kissing or being held or holding hands there are just some things you want to have and I've never had any of it. It breaks you down

Answer

All the people telling you to wait for the right guy are right. You just need to stop looking and WAIT. It takes others longer than most and it takes no time at all for others. Everyone is different.

How old are you?

Answer

I think you are sparing yourself a lot of crappy men by staying single. I dated nothing but crappy users and abusers that I wish I never had. I fell in love for the first time when I was 30. Was with him a year and a half and he cheated. Took me a year and a half to get over him. I decided I would focus on myself. My self esteem. Independence. I became a strong independent woman that didn't need a man to complete her. A man compliments who you already are. I knew who I was and what I wanted. Consistency. No games. Someone that was was not just gonna use me for sex or money etc. Zero bs. And I didn't settle  anymore for whatever crap would have me. Didn't let my hormones or loneliness do the choosing. I swore off men. I wasn't looking. Not long after my 34th birthday I met the guy I have been with for the last 4 years. I was Leary since he was 23 and I felt like a total pedofile. Took him 6 months of chasing after me to make me look at him differently. I told him it was on my terms. I didn't want a relationship based on sex that it wasn't important to me and that if he did get it, it would not be on the regular. I made him wait a year and a half for sex. And he respected that. I know it sucks and you feel lonely. Prepare yourself for the right one. Inside and out. Mentally emotionally. Etc. Work on the things that you can change and what you can't you embrace and learn to love. Keep yourself busy. Volunteer. That's how I met him. My mom works at a college and I help her after work with the students. My guy was in the chaplains office and I walked by and the chaplain waved me to come in. He's also my pastor. We got into this huge political debate and i tore him to pieces. And he asked me if I had anyone. I blew him off and said you are better off alone than in bad company. I had zero desire to be with anyone. Keep your head up. Had I met him when he was 18 I would not have given him the time of day. Timeline is everything.

Why does not one want me?

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