did I do the wrong thing?

Question

I'm very open with my boyfriend who've I've been with for almost a year and a half. I told him that when I was 11, I made a lot of immature and stupid choices like dating a 16 year old. I reassured him and told him that nothing happened and I was very anti-sexual back then and all we did was say stuff like "I love you", but of course we didn't mean it I was 11. I admitted that what I did was unsettling, how wrong it was, how disgusting it was and how ashamed I was of my 11 year old-self. But he took this news unwell and said it made him a little mad and he wished I never told him because it makes him uncomfortable to think about that, and I can understand why but now he is sort of giving me the cold shoulder and not being as nice as he always is. Did I do the wrong thing by being too open with him?
Update:
We were talking about that stuff, so I brought it up. After being diagnosed for PTSD a couple years ago from being oraly raped in Pre-K, I was told that because of the event that it is most likely the reason it provoked my wrong behavior. He knew I was orally raped, so I made the wrong assumption of him knowing why I did date older guys.

Answer

I understand that an 11 year old and a 16 year old probably shouldn't dat because of the age difference but you said you didn't do anything with him so I'm not sure why it is unsettling for him. As for your PTSD, make sure he does know the effects of that and how serious it is. I'm not sure if you have many triggers but if you do let him know every angle one of them so he can be gentle about it. It's your past and he shouldn't hold anything from your past against you. I used to do this with my boyfriend (who I am now married too) and let me tell you, we fought way less when I stopped and let the past be the past.

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It's a part of your history, your story, and maybe an experience that shaped you in some way. I see nothing wrong with being open about things that have impacted someone, and I think it shows vulnerability that also invites your significant other to be open about experiences as well. It's one way a relationship strengthens and grows. What's hard is that we can't control or predict how someone reacts to hearing things that they don't take well. There was no way for you to know how he'd take it, and quite honestly, if you had no malicious intent in telling him about some life experience of yours, then it shouldn't affect him one way or the other. But it sounds like it did and still does, so I'd just let it drop and let it blow over so it doesn't become an issue bigger than it is. Hugs!

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You were 11 years old he can't blame you for anything you did when you were a child. If he isn't accepting it he himself is a child, god forbid you ever wanted to confide in him anything truly traumatic im sure he would be just as useless and making you feel shame for something you have absolutely no reason to feel shame for. Sorry, but that's what I think.

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Ofcourse it's going to be unsettling for him to hear, but the past is the past. There's absolutely nothing you can do to change what happened. I don't understand why you felt the need to inform him of this information if he didn't ask though.

did I do the wrong thing?

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