mamas who already had their babies: how are you adjusting?

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Man this is so hard! It's not even that it's hard but just really demanding!! At night I wonder if I'm cut out for this. In the hospital I felt really capable and even after I came home for the first night. Now I realize I ran off of adrenaline. Baby blues are hitting hard and I wish I didn't wish for my pregnancy to be over to so quick. I love being able to enjoy my little baby but it's certainly not adjusting. I'm a FTM and 8 PP, can't even think about having another baby and I wanted one more. I'm praying at 2 weeks PP I will wake up and feel better. Anyone else that can relate?

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It gets better! The first few days I was a wreck. Completely freaking out and worried about everything. It's your hormones! My little guy is 2 weeks old and I'm starting to feel like a human again. I make sure I shower and get dressed everyday and take him out to do one errand each day. It really helps! It's still challenging, but each day it gets easier as we build our little routine.

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8 days PP and this is the hardest thing I have ever done. I am absolutely exhausted and breastfeeding what feels like 30 hours a day. But I finally started pumping about 5 oz a day for night feedings son my husband can help out ... still tough though because he comfort is on my breast and she still wants to just suckle for 20-30 mins each time she gets up at night. It's getting better and we're finding our routine a guess, still exhausted. But she is completely worth everything. Trying to find the positives in every day and do something for myself every day. Yesterday I shaved my legs and it was a huge milestone! Lol we can do this, hang in there mama! ❤️

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Blessed with second angel. My son is 2 so we were worried about jealousy or violence because he likes to drum. But so far 12 days pp he has been a big help. I hope your blues go away just think of lo as an extension of you and remember to breathe. Because I am mom I feel like I have to do it all, but take the help offered. I'll invite friends over just so I can shower!

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Oh no this made me so sad. Don't beat yourself up! Your life just changed dramatically which takes a lot to get your head around- and your mean little bastard hormones aren't doing any favours. I'm 5days pp with a contented baby and loads of support from OH yet I still feel overwhelmed! Sometimes I cry because I know my life just changed forever (even tho I know it's in a good way!) Still a scary thought though.
Do you have someone close to talk to? Every day or 2 me and OH have a little 5min heart to heart about how things are going and what we're finding good or bad. Having someone to talk to that I know won't judge has helped loads x

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I had no problems with my first. I was blessed with the best newborn ever. I fed her every two hours and she never cried for anything. She was perfect.

Her little brother is the exact opposite. He is SO clingy and dependent (yes I know he's a newborn; my daughter was never like this though). I knew I wouldn't get blessed twice with such a good baby, but he's even harder to handle because he's a second child. I still have to take care of my daughter and remember to eat myself. I don't even feel like I'm bonding with my baby because I'm so worn out running around all day. Everything people told me I would feel with my first (the exhaustion, the feelings I can't do it some days, etc.) came this time around. I know depression is going to get me too. I can feel it creeping up on me.

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I'm 3 days PP and I know what you mean the first night at home I was so scared and still drugged UP. Now 3 days in its getting easier I'm learning his cries and I sleep when he sleeps

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I had my son October 8! Been home since Monday 1st night was very overwhelming but it's been getting better slowly! I try to sleep ND eat when he sleeps I'm breastfeeding ND it's kinda hard he latched on just fine but he seems to eat less ND less but I leak so bad! But this is definitely worth it we have our babies with us finally! Today I woke up was able to shower ND felt good put make up on! Try to do minor things like that

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Had my daughter October 9th and the first couple nights were horrible. I wasn't producing enough colostrum to feed her so we needed to supplement with formula, which caused me to cry uncontrollably because I felt like a failure and a bad mom, not to mention I was exhausted and my SO had to almost immediately go back to work. I was up every hour, my nipples were cracked and blistering, and I was super emotional.

Thankfully it has gotten better in the past couple days, so hang in there momma. You can do this 💕

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I'm a ftm too and I feel the exact same. I am behind exhausted especially since I'm breast feeding too. My baby boy was born on the 9th. I didn't think it was gonna be this hard and exhausting.

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I'm going to be a ftm soon and I'm Beth curious about this subject because many women don't speak about it .
Thank you for asking and thank you ladies for responding truthfully and honest.
Gives me an insight of what can happen and it won't last forever, it gets better ❤️ power to you all, we can get through this

mamas who already had their babies: how are you adjusting?

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