spoiled newborn?

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My son just made 3 weeks, this Tuesday 10/11. Prior to this he was getting much better at latching (he's exclusively breastfed), eating longer and sleeping great. The Monday before he made 3 weeks we had a rough night, he was very fussy. I would try and feed him, but he would only eat for a few minutes before fussing again. Trying to calm him, I continued to switch sides, believing he was hungry. I made sure he was dry and tried to burp him. If while feeding he begin to go to sleep he would wake up once again crying. This went on from about 12am-5am. This happened again last night. I'm worried because I've need hearing I'm spoiling him and that's what's wrong because he didn't want me to put him down. Then again I'm more concerned that this maybe colic. Last night I became very down because he just didn't want to go to sleep and the moment he did and I attempted to put him down he woke up crying again. I just don't know what to do. I nurse on demand because I want to keep my supply up but in doing this I hold him all the time. What should I do?

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You can't spoil a newborn IMO about sounds like colic. Try gerber soothe drops

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There are growth spurts at week 3 and week 6. My daughter went through the week 3 one and just couldn't get enough to eat and didn't want to be put down. It lasted a few days during that week and then the next week she was totally fine. And btw......you can not spoil an infant. They don't understand cause and effect until about 3 months and even then it's more of a reward based understanding of "if I cry mommy picks me up." I've worked in childcare for 10 years and have taken several classes on infant to two year old behavior.....please please HOLD your infant that is how s/he learns to trust adults!!

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Cluster feeding is normal. My baby does this all the time. She's only a week older. Well my husband doesn't know anything about breastfeeding and he kept telling me I'm over feeding her. Well, I listened even though I kept telling home she's cluster feeding. But he's stubborn and thinks he's always right. So 5ounces lost and a Lactation consultant layer he finally listens to me. You got this have a little station of snacks, a water bottle and great movies to watch. So when he starts cluster feeding you won't feel the need to hurry up. Just get enough sleep.

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You can't spoil a newborn so please don't worry about that. Your baby is most likely going through a growth spurt which will Kat a few days but in general for the first 6 weeks post birth babies are very attached. The things to remember are that you have enough milk, just keep feeding baby when they ask for it and even if you need to just spend the day or night sat on the sofa feeding and cuddling there's nothing wrong with that. It will pass and you will be able to put baby down. They do cry for a reason even if it's just wanting to be held.

Babies don't develop object permanence until much later on which means if they don't see you, you don't exist anymore. Imagine how scary that is. One minute they are with you and all warm and cosy and then they are down in a cot or crib on their own. A baby who doesn't know you exist anymore doesn't know how to manipulate so the whole spoiling thing is ludicrous. I hate it when people say that to mums!

You're doing amazingly and just know that I'm on my second and an still completely exhausted and overwhelmed by the growth spurts and constant feeding and crying. You're not alone.

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First off I think you're doing a great job!!! I had that happen a few nights with my baby girl she's turning 4 weeks tomorrow...I don't think you're spoiling cus at this age we have to feed on demand...keep it up and when he falls asleep wake him so he gets enough to eat...try mylicon if you think it's colic it should help...

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Don't worry mama, you can't "spoil" a newborn. All you're doing is teaching trust and comfort. Sounds like maybe some gas, or possibly poop pains. It's normal, especially right in that timeframe. Just keep at it, you're doing great!!

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Can't spoil a newborn. They don't know the concept of manipulation

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No such thing as spoiling a newborn! And babies cannot soothe themselves!

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I think my three week old son just went through a growth spurt. Tons of feedings, followed by extra gas and discomfort. This effected his sleep too, interrupting it when he was uncomfortable.

I read somewhere that infants need twenty minutes to fall into deep sleep. Therefore, I will hold him for twenty minutes, to make sure he is really asleep. Otherwise, if I put him in the crib beforehand, he'll just stir, wake up, and start the please-won't-you-sleep routine again.

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1 you can't spoil a newborn. They aren't old enough to make associations like that. Newborns want to be held because it makes them feel safe and secure. Wanting this comes natural to them. 2 cluster feeding is normal. Aka snacking. Their little tummies are a lot different than ours and handle eating differently than ours do. * But fussing in the middle of eating can be due to an upset tummy. Try burping every so often during feeding to clear the air off of his belly. Also, falling asleep during nursing is a sign that he's full. If he has too much on his belly it will make him fussy because his tummy will cramp up and it's uncomfortable. * I think you're doing great. Just remember not to get upset and stay calm because he senses how you're feeling.

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