Is 16 too young?

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I am sixteen, and people around me have been saying I should wait just a couple of years at least because I haven't even grown myself, etc. 
Despite that, me and my 20-year-old boyfriend believe that we can do this. I'm still in school but I'll switch to homeschooling once the baby gets here, and I'll work once I can. We have a solid plan. We can provide this baby everything, money won't be a problem. The answers won't change my mind but I was still wondering what some of you might think. What would you have done in my position?

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So are you TTC or already pregnant? Your answers on your poll make it seem like your pregnant already.

I personally think you're way too young. Have not ever watch 16 and pregnant? Or teen mom? Or asked a mom even in her 20s or 30s how hard it is? Do you have a degree? Do you own your own house? Do you own your own car? Are those thing paid off or getting paid off? What about diapers and clothes and doctors appointments and insurance and the water bill and electric bill and cable/internet bill or cell phone bill?

You're way over your head. Like you said nothing we say will change your mind but that right there just shows how immature you are. You won't even consider listening to someone with more experience than you. So why bother asking the question? What will people think of you? Well, most will judge you for being so young. You'll get lots of looks and stares and snarky comments. Be ready! And don't be surprised when it happens.

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Motherhood, especially without a stable job, income, support, and basic life experience, is not a fairy tale.

Prepare yourself for a lot of struggle and sacrifice...

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I have a friend who got pregnant and then realized she wasn't ready at all for a baby and could barley take care of herself. She then did some research and found a couple who had been trying to have kids for over 10 years. She gave them the baby and they were sooooo happy to have him. A lot of people say you are a bad mom or person if you give your baby up but really you aren't. When you have a child you have to put them first. That's what she did. Now he is 2, she still sees him. She is his godmother. She knows they are giving him a better life then she could have.

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For the love of god! Forget about babies and live your life! I am 33 now and preg with my first. My life would have been shit had I gotten preg at 16...I speak from experience, as I watched my older sister get preg at 17, then resent me for traveling the world as she raised her son as a single parent (guy didn't stick around), thus missing out on the entire prime of her life! I am so happy that I waited and had a great time being young and carefree.

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Finish school and go to college or university first, love. Get skills to support yourself in case it doesn't work out with your bf. You have to look after yourself first. Xoxo

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Just gonna say this baby changes everything money time and even ur relationship so I would wait until u finish school and ur in ur 20...should really date some ur own age he can go clubbing to bars and drink just think about he be 30 when u turn 20 that huge age gap sometimes that can affect your relationship with someone baby sit someone newborn and see how that goes and that the real test right there

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It makes things so much more enjoyable if you are already out iof school and already have a job, it's less stressful. I was your age and wanted a baby so bad but never got pregnant now I'm 20 and pregnant and so happy that it happened now

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I would really suggest enjoying life. I had a friend who got married at 18 and got pregnant two months later. Yes at the time she was very happy and excited. Her and her husband were both active duty military so they definitely had a stable income. Because she was pregnant, she had to stay behind in California while her husband moved to Hawaii so she had to be essentially a single mom. Now she's 23 and wished she had waited and had time to have fun. Her and her sons father are now divorced and it's very straining to deal with. It's a lot easier to just go and finish school than getting pregnant and going to school with morning sickness and pains and then having a full time baby while trying to do homeschool

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I think you are doing something very brave. Of course you know people are going to make comments behind your back and question your decision to keep your baby, you know that and you don't need anyone to state the obvious. No one can or should say if you should keep or give your baby up for adoption they don't know your situation or they type of support you have at home. Your support system is really what makes the difference and As long as you have people you can rely on and encourage you in the right way like parents, grandparents, other family and friends you will be fine an your baby will be loved that is the most important. Yes

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Its your life. It's got nothing to do with any of us, and if you don't care what answers you will get then why bother asking? Your saying it's because you want to hear views but if you won't listen then your just basically starting a big rant. You do realise, so many women are going to come on here and write massive paragraphs when you don't even care. It's your life, do what you want, it's not up to us to tell you otherwise especially if you don't even want to know.

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