Is it okey to fall for a guy who loves his baby mama and I at the same time?

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Hello you guys i have fall in love with this guy since 2013 he wasn't being honest in the first jump but I was attractive to him and wanted to wait till he opens up..  Time took a big fall he did three years not reaching out to me till last month and I took a lost for it again n let him in . But I see that's he starts changing his ways(more open) but the baby mama is still in the picture she always writing him on his time wall.. I feel it's like a competition im the third wheel I know I can't never changed what They have . I mean she is pretty . Should I stop over thinking and let things fall the way it should? I don't want to rush things I just want the boy to be mine in (brandy voice). Help please

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I think you should find someone who will only love you!

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Get your own man not someone elses. Plus they have children, come on now. You know he's no good but you're not being good either.

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I think you deserve someone who is focused on you and only you!! This guy, no matter how much you're attracted to him, can't really give you what you need when he's invested in someone else. Your feelings for him might not go away, but you need to find someone who can love you and only you! He's not the only guy who you'll be attracted to you and he's certainly not the only one who will find you attractive so don't close yourself off to better options! If you don't think you can resist him then just cut him off and look for something healthier

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When baby mama involved in that way thats not a good thing.  Its one thing to just communicate about the child only but if its more than that then no ma'am.  Dont get entangled in all of that because you don't want to be hurt in the end. Better to let go now than later.

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Btw me . I know I shouldn't want to be with him cause he doesn't wanna get married or cause he doesn't want more kids. But I had to realize I'd have to deal with the gruesome aftermath of his and her bad relationship and I just don't want that for me and my son. It's kinda hard to explain in why I left him but just know one day something in my head came on and said you no longer need to do this. Walk away and I did. With no hurt feeling or no hesitation I just left. Idk if this will help you or if it was a good little story but this is just me speaking in somewhat of the same experience. Good luck beautiful.

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He's always going to have some type of feeling and careing for her. He's always going to want to make sure she's okay and happy. It's his kids mother, he would never not want his kids mother to be okay. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or want to be with you. But there will always be some type of connection

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. I decided to move on because dealing with his baby mama and his issues was too much for me. I stuck by this man side while he was going through court and when his baby mother took his daughter away when he went to jail because of her and etc. she's now pregnant due in December with their second and I was with him his whole pregnancy. The only difference is they had no contact cause for some reason she doesn't want him in their kids life. Trust me when I say this. This man is a great man and father. He has his shitty ways but we all have shitty ways. Anyway eventually you'll get tired of it and realize you deserve better and you'll get better. It's only when a light bulb come on and tell you to give up on it. Btw me and him at times where we knew we'd have to break up so he can make his family with her work. I'd tell him be with your family cause that is something I would want for my son if his dad was acting right. I've been through thick and thin had this mans back just to end up alone again by my choice. We've cried in the phone together saying we don't want to lose each other. Finally went back to saying we love each other and can't be without each other. We sent long paragraphs to each other explaining our love. How he loves me and his son. How he knows he would never find someone who genuinely loves me and takes care of him and my son and business like Indio. And no he wasn't going back telling her the same things cause I would go through his phone and he wouldn't know. The times we did break up so he could give his family a try. Yes he slept with her yes he told her he loved her they have kids together. But it would never work out which him and her. He'd be right back with me. I gave up on him because she was emotionally and mentally destroying him and I didn't want to suffer from it. He's already said we aren't doing certain things I want in life.

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Ok, I wish I can message you but I guess you have to buy the app which is stupid. Anyway I honestly just recently got out of this same exact situation. From my experience which is kinda different but similar uhm from my experience I would say find someone better babe. We all deserve someone who only wants us. What I've always been told is if he wants to be there and be with you he would be there. Let me give you a little insight on my experience. He was actually my high school sweetheart. I met him when I was 14 and we've always had love for each other. I'm 23 now and we've always been in contact on and off throughout the years. We've always came back to each other like we've never been split up. Even when I got pregnant and he had a daughter He was there. He was there when my son was born and he was there in my sons life for a whole year up until a couple weeks ago. I

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I wish I can share my story with you but it's too long for this post so I'll try and do it by leavening comments underneath my comment.

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Fuck that!

Is it okey to fall for a guy who loves his baby mama and I at the same time?

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