how to deal??

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How do you deal with your spouse being a drug addict like what should I do he leaves every night doesn't answer my calls , comes home at like 5 in the morning . I love him a lot but I'm always crying and stressed out . He constantly lies to me and is out doing stuff that I know he could get arrested for. I don't want our baby to grow up without a father . I've tried to help him get clean but now I feel like he's given up. Every time I tell him how I feel he just says sorry and that's it and keeps doing it over and over . I don't know what to do . It makes me sad and depressed and makes me have bad thoughts about myself . I feel like I can't even connect with the baby . We haven't even picked out a name for him 😢

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If you have a baby coming then you need to put your child first. 
No child deserves to be brought up in a house where there is drug abuse. 
If your partner won't help himself then tell him to leave.

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He's not going to change/get clean unless he wants to.  Drugs are a hell of a thing to get over and can ruin lives.
I suggest leaving as upsetting as that may sound.  I wouldn't want my baby to be around its drug addict parent.  If he doesn't want to change for the better for himself, baby or family, he's not worth it in my eyes.
Give your baby the love and support it needs and don't let them grow up wondering why their dad isn't home or is acting weird.

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As a child of an addict the worst thing you can do is keep the addict around. You need to leave. My physical and mental health suffered greatly bc my mother was stuck on drugs. The best thing to do is leave and if he ever gets clean and wants to have a relationship with your child then so be it. At this point though you need to think of baby as being the number one priority.

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I went through this with my boyfriend a while ago. It was heart breaking. But I can say, if he doesn't want to change or quit then he won't. It's so sad and hard to understand. I went through so much but I had faith and stuck by him. We broke up for about a month. I knew he was still using but I tried to help. Don't accuse, but TRY to talk to him and let him know how you feel. Just listen. My boyfriend is retired from the military with PTSD, so that has a lot to do with it. But I got pregnant and he stopped. He got a great job, bought us a house and he busts his ass everyday. And he's so much healthier. But he wanted to do it, I couldn't make him. Some people don't have that will power. I hope your boyfriend does ❤️

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You can never make a drug addict get clean, he will have to want to do that for himself and to stay clean. You need to put your energy into your child.

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Well if he's not willing to make a change, you need to be. So far he's getting to do the thing that hurts you and your family again and again and he suffers no consequence. Leave and show him what he's giving up. And if he changes his act and goes to rehab then great! And if he doesn't then you have your answer there too. You deserve better and your baby deserves better. Love is not a reason to stay in a relationship that disrespects you and puts you and your baby at risk.

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You already know the answer, girl. Dump him immediately.

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If he won't change for the baby then you need to leave because your baby deserves better then to grow up around drugs and a druggy even if it means growing up without a father at least he has his mommy who loves him enough to get him out of a bad situation!!!!!!!!

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You can't help someone who refuses to help themselves. I hate to say leave, but that might be a wake up call he needs, or it may send him further downhill. What do you do when the baby comes? Do you trust their drug addicted father? What help do you have? What about money? Is he spending it all on drugs? You need to think long term, what's best for you and your baby. Nothing good can come from a drug addict who doesn't care. It'll only get worse.

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