How would you feel?

Question

I bought my boyfriend a necklace ($100) and a shaving kit ($35) for our anniversary present and he bought me a ring ($55) for me. I feel kinda disappointed and unappreciated. And he wasn't going to give it to me until I gave him his gift. He didn't even say happy anniversary or nothing when we woke up. He was literally just waiting to get his gift first. Should I feel this way? The ring felt and looks like a ring from a candy machine . I feel horrible for saying that but this isn't the first time he's done this. For Christmas I spent ($200) on him he spent ($45) on me I know the thought is what counts. But idk I feel soooo idk how to explain it. How would feel?
UPDATE: he makes well over $3,000 a month I make about $800. And he'll spend close to $500 on weed to smoke and other things.

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Why concentrate on the dollar amount spent? Pay attention to the sentimentality of the gifts.

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It's totally important! He clearly buys you a gift just to get by with getting you one. He clearly knows how much what you bought him costs. Next time don't bother buying him something that expensive. Buy something within the range of what he buys you. It's only fair. It's a disappointment when you put so much thought into something and the person doesn't do the same. You just have to play the game too. $300 on weed?!? Please! His weed is more important than you? I don't think so.

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How old are you? Do you feel unappreciated in other areas? Does he spend a lot of quality time with you?

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I would feel grateful that he bought me something and that he picked it himself. My husband and I rarely buy gifts for each other bc we use our extra money to buy more for our kids. One day we'll be able to buy each other gifts but we are definitely happy with having each other. We buy each other cards for birthdays, anniversaries, and Mothers/Father's Day. Id much rather have a card with a meaningful message. ❤️

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I understand you feel under appreciated. My husband is horrible at giving gifts as well. He hates getting them so he doesn't understand why it's important to me. We ended up making a gift matrix. It outlines every gift holiday and what we expect from each other. I know on my birthday I get a surprise, well thought out gift and he gets an experience (like concert or nice dinner out). I haven't been disappointed since. Sometimes we check in before holidays and make sure we both understand what is on the matrix.

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Price isn't what's important.

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I can understand that it's frustrating that you put thought (and more money) into the presents, but there are a couple of factors that I don't know, so I don't know how to comment.
Do you make more than him? Or does he make more? 
Maybe you guys should come up with a gift price limit (it's what my husband and I have done our entire relationship) that way no one feels as if they've paid more or you feel like you're paying more.
I would be annoyed if the presents lacked any kind of thought more than the cost; (before the limit) I bought my husband Christmas presents and he gave me a necklace. It was his favorite necklace that he has had for years and it was important to him. He put thought into it.
Maybe sit down and talk to him about gift giving. Maybe he's really bad at it. Some people are. Rhebjudt are at a loss of what  to get someone, even their SO.

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