Too Young? Inconvenient for work?

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I'm 20 and happily married. I'm finishing my Associate's degree online. My husband and I rent a townhouse. We are tight on finances but not "financially unstable". We want to try for a baby soon even though I just started a new job. I just want people's opinions. I will (obviously) make my own decision. I'm not asking for guidance. Just opinions. I'm curious what everyone else thinks.
**disclaimer: DON'T SAY I DON'T THINK YOU'RE READY IF YOU'RE ASKING FOR ADVICE. I'M NOT. I'M ASKING IF WORK AND AGE IS REALLY RELEVANT TO WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE IF YOU CAN AFFORD IT AND HANDLE IT. (any time a young person asks a question on here older women jump to say "if you're asking/wondering/worrying you're too young/not ready/uneducated" kind of over it, hence the anonymous...)
Should I feel bad that a family is inconvenient for my new job (my job is pregnancy friendly but not 100% family friendly and I'm new.. )? We are ready despite our age.

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I think you're not ready if you have to consult with strangers before doing it

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I say if your ready then you will know. Consulting with strangers and asking for opinions is only going to confuse you more. A lot of people will express their opinions. Some negative some positive but at the end of the day it's about how you and your partner feel about a baby. Just plan ahead and think about how having a baby will affect both of you in the future. And good luck!

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I think you should wait maybe another year or two. Not really because of your age, just because babies are expensive and if you plan one you wanna make sure you're in a good place financially. So work your Butta off, save up some money, and maybe this time next year you can start trying!

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I'm pregnant at 21. Married, own a house and hubby has a 7 year old from previous relationship, so for us to wait a long time for a baby would have been difficult with his son, who is desperate for a sibling.
We did have to consider finances, because I would like to be at home for 2 years with the child before even considering returning to work.

I dont have a degree, but feel like once I have had kids and they're in school, I'll still be young enough to study (have no idea what I want to do). And at a great age to fulfill a career before I am 30 hopefully, with the benefit of already having kids.

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Im 29, married, army wife and i have my PhD...spent practically my whole adult life not "being ready" and preparing my career....im 6 months out of school and still no job! Ok maybe it doesnt help restricting myself because of where my hubby is stationed...but we are currently pregnant and financially ok despite me being jobless...what im getting at is...when are we ever truly ready? When is the "right" time? Especially for a career oriented woman? If you do honestly feel ready, dont let anyone tell you youre not just for asking advice! Im still not even ready! Good luck to you!

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If you're saying you're ready than what opinion of anyone's are you looking for on here?😊 I was 19 and my husband was 23 when we had our first child. We were married and were renting a place. Money was tight but we made it work. I got a job at a gym and was able to take my son with me to work. The biggest factor for me personally was I always knew I wanted to be the caretaker of my own children and not someone else. Not downing anyone else who does but that was big for my husband and I. Yes, lots of financial sacrifices but can't put a price on actually being able to be with your own child and not miss their first steps etc

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This whole post is just for young people to brag about where they are in life. If you think you're ready for something, then do it. We don't know your personality. We don't know how you deal and cope with things. You can only answer this question for yourself

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You shouldn't feel bad, I felt the same way.. I had just finished up my bachelor's degree in Nov and my husband had brought up trying for baby #2 after I'd get done with school. The first thing that came into my head was, okay so I'm going to have to put my career on hold to take care of a baby for the first few years of life which is very inconvenient for me because honestly, I didn't have baby fever as much as he did... but thinking about it; being 27 I feel like I'm not getting any younger and so here I am 28 weeks pregnant and I'm excited but sometimes I wonder, what am I doing with myself?? It's frustrating.

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Trust your intuition it seems like your on the right path you got your degree and married blessings in whatever you decide

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Only you will know if you're ready or not. I don't see why this question is being asked on a forum full of strangers.

Too Young? Inconvenient for work?

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