Both me and my boyfriend have large families. His side/sisters really want us to just do one big shower of both my family and his and all of our friends and colleagues. It would be easier to get everything done at once but it would be looking at 80+ people for the shower which would raise the cost for us and every one that chips in. My family wants to do a separate thing to be intimate and celebrate my first baby a little more. Although I would love a more intimate party with just my family I would really enjoy one big party. Idk what to do.