Lot on my mind sorry it's so long

So me and my fiancé have been together for 8 and a half years, the first 5 we didn't prevent pregnancy but we didn't try and we never got pregnant. So I went on birth control to regulate my periods only it didn't really do much but make them a little lighter still had lots of intense cramps. My doctor did run test and everything was normal. So instead of taking the placebo pills I took my active pills constantly to never have a period. The last few months he went to the doctor and found out he has low t so they put him on clomid and he can already tell a huge difference going into month 3. We are getting married in December and I can't wait. However almost daily in the first 5 years I'd get asked when are yall going to have kids or something along those lines I brushed it off saying our gaming was to expensive so we weren't going to yet. Though we have been trying for a month those first 5 years really took a toll on me mentally. The negative test and starting my period everytime we thought maybe was the biggest defeat. I'm going for my yearly Friday and I want to talk to her about some stuff. How do I make myself feel less depressed about ttc our first kid when I have friends who are beyond fertile and not one has had an issue like this.