I think it's time to switch.

I went to this one doctor for my pap smears and when I first met her she seemed okay. During the Pap Smear, she was very rough with me and maybe I felt that way because it's the first female doctor I've had. Males tend to be more gentle. In my opinion. I didn't like that, but I accepted it as where I live I am very limited to decent doctors. Well, I went in and asked to be switched to a different birth control because the one I was on had too many side affects. Instead of switching, she tells me to quit taking it. I was scared because it was the only protection my husband and I use besides pulling out and it also helped my terrible periods. So a few months goes by and I end up pregnant. Not blaming her, it's our own faults. I'm happy to be pregnant honestly I wouldn't change it for anything. But I decided to continue seeing her. She is very short with appointments, she didn't really ask if I had any questions. I'm a FTM. I'm only 21 also and my mom passed 2 Years ago so I don't have the mother figure to ask questions or go to. I'm pretty much left with Google. She also measured the heartbeat on the first ultrasound at 12 weeks but didn't offer to let my husband and I hear it. He was pretty upset because he also had to practically beg for her to snap a picture of the ultrasound for us to take home. Now, she calls me 2 weeks after the appointment and blood work to tell me I have bacteria in my urine culture. I know my body and I can tell when I have enough bacteria that I need to take antibiotics and I have no burning but yet she is directing me to take them. To me I don't see the point in taking medicine if I don't have to. I work in the medial field and I've done UAs before and I knew there would be bacteria because she didn't order a clean catch sample from me. So of course naturally there will be bacteria in my urine. I just don't trust this doctor and I feel like she doesn't really have my best interest in mind. Would you rather a female or male OB and also is it a lot of trouble to switch doctors? I'm 14 weeks so I'm not too far along yet.