How to decide if having a baby is right for you?

Question

So... I'm 32 years old, married for 2 years. Hubby and I have been going back and forth if we want to have kids. We are both on the fence and still not 100%. Part of me wants to have a baby, but I'm not sure if it's just the pressure in the world to have one? Or if I really want to?

Also, this world has so many uncertainties... along with it being overpopulated. My hubby feels the same way too.

We are not preventing, and if it happens it is meant to be.

Anyone else have these feelings?

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I have a lot of friends who feel this way. It really is one of those "you know when you know" kind of things. It's hard, but after my career, marriage, and all goals met, being a mommy gave me purpose. If you have all these doubts and questions, you don't sound ready.

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Both of you need to sit down (separately) and imagine how your future looks. Down to every detail. Do you see a child?

There's your answer.

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Look at your financial situation. Could u rause a child in your current financial situation. Is your relationship healthy enough to raise a child in a loving envirinment? Have u reached your goals and have taken care of yourself? And lastly do u DESIRE a child right now. Ask yourself that and u have your answer

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You don't sound ready to me. When you are ready you will know for sure. For me I suddenly had an overwhelming desire to want to have a baby (although I did always know I would want to be a mum 'one day'). It's usually different for most men though. Not many men crave a baby like women do.. It's usually the woman who dictates it first and then discuss it with her partner. 
If it is something you want and you are already in your 30's, my advice is don't wait too long because it gets harder to concieve as you get older and also pregnancy gets riskier the older you get.

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Kids require a lot of love and attention.. it is something I wish every girl can feel and experience. I didn't hate kids but I wasn't really into them until I had my baby. It's like a whole other world you miss out on not being a mommy...  I would recommend that your finances are good, you can afford daycare or have someone to watch baby (if you work) and make sure you both agree to have a baby. My husband has helped me so much and has seen some very crazy things from me between being pregnant and then my hormones after birth lol he was understanding through it all.. you will NEVER be prepared to experience motherhood. The only way you can is to make sure your up for it!

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I'm around your age and I feel the same way. I do fantasize about a baby but I also know it's a huge life changer. And I don't know when I reach 40 if I would even dare

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Yes this world is full of uncertanty but that shouldnt stop you from having a child you cant live under a rock or shield them from everything all you can do is show them that with the good things come the bad things

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