How has being abused changed your attitude about certain aspects of romantic relationships?
So, two days from now marks four months since my former intimate partner raped me, and five days ago was three months since I left the relationship. It was highly emotionally abusive and left me with debilitating PTSD and depression. I came out a stronger person, and also got some new ideas about relationships and boundaries. For example, it made me realize exactly how toxic jealousy is. Like, I My abuser was hyper jealous, to the point where if I left my phone for 5 minutes to take a shower he would accuse me of cheating. He also accused me of cheating with my own cousin because of one instagram photo he saw where I had a conversation with him. He'd spend hours yelling at me and insulting me over perceived infractions, and it wore on my sanity. As a result, I have a zero tolerance policy for irrational jealousy and I insist on respecting the autonomy of my current serious partner. Being abused gave me a much more mature perspective on boundaries and expectations, and has made my current relationship very successful. I mean, I was never a jealous person to begin with, but now I have a level of insight which I did not possess before. I guess that's the one thing that came out of being abused that was positive. Does anyone else have a similar story? I'd love to hear it.
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