This could be a very very long post so I'm going to get to the basics. My sister (brother- but transgender) and I have never been close. He has been diagnosed with mental illness so he's not all there. He's been on meds for depression. He's done some things while my parents were out of town such as stand in my doorway and watch me sleep...and once he was angry when I asked to do dishes and he pulled a knife on me. My now husband was there so he's witnessed all this... my sister was about 14 when this happened. I never told my parents and maybe I should have. Anyway fast forward a few years and because of this and so much disrespect my parents decide it's best she get her own place (she is 21 with a full time job). I messaged her about seeing her at Xmas when we go home and she said she would text me - which she probably won't and I'm okay with that. Her and my parents aren't on speaking terms and it has NOtHiNg to do with the fact that she is transgender. My mother in law keeps sticking her nose where it don't belong. She wants my sister to come to her house- behind my parents backs- and visit with my kids (2.5 and 14 weeks). She does not know that he has some mental problems and anger issues...and I'm a little uncomfortable having my kids around her at this time for safety reasons. All she sees is us judging her based on gender but it's not that!!! I wish she would open her eyes. There's more to this book than she knows. I was there, I grew up with her. I want her to meet my kids someday but she needs help first. It's my job to keep my kids safe. I feel like mum in law keeps pushing. She's invited her to her house and I feel like it's inappropriate for her to be doing this. Am I wrong?