first time anal?? didn't hurt but didn't feel good wtf

Soo I jus had my daughter in September, my baby's father provides for us financially.. which I am 110%thankful for, don't get me wrong . But when he's home his face is ALWAYS in his phone, while he barely got to see His daughter and I marjority of the friggin Week!! I have to argue with him to take Saturday's and Sunday's off work... or else we'd never get time with him. Anyways our sex life and our vibes have just been completely off lately, idk if it's jus stress within both of us.. but lately I've been feeling like a sex doll.. he only wants me, if he wakes up out of a wet dream (he has those a lot).. if I start bitching about how he's never home and jus pointing out  him real true situations and examples of things he doesn't know or see that his daughters been doing, like cooing and smiling and trying to talk.. anyways so lately I've been wanting to spice things up between us bc life has gotten so dull.. he's been beggin and pleasing to have Anal sex for almost 2yrs now, constantly bringing it up.. so the other night I start playin around as usual then I got bored which happens all the time with me, I enjoy switching it up any hoo so he brought up anal again and I shocked the shit out of him and said okay just plz don't hurt me... and surprisingly it didn't hurt at all, but it also didn't feel pleasurable like everyone makes it out to be 😑😒 but he fell asleep a happy camper. I on the hand was extremely constipated the hole next day.