how to have a long term bf improve in the bedroom

I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months (not long term but long term in the fact I've gone 7 months without addressing certain discomforts in the bedroom) and sex is good, like actual penis penitration but I don't enjoy when he fingers me and sometimes it feels uncomfortable when he goes down on me, like he's forcing his mouth to hard or something. How do I get him to improve to what I enjoy and like this late in our sexual relationship?