Husband doesnt feel excited to feel baby kick..

Jessica
Im probably just being hormonal but any time the baby is kicking I tell my husband to come feel, and he sighs and says im not going to be able to feel it yet! Then I get upset and he will come over, put his hand on my belly and play with his phone with the other hand or fall asleep.. I never thought my pregnancy would be like this. This is our rainbow baby and I will be 30w on friday, I understood why in the beginning, because he was scared that we were going to lose this baby too. I just want him to feel close to the baby and try and bond some with him. I sing, read and talk to the baby and he doesnt do any of that. Im just worried that hes not feeling connected and I dont know how to help him..
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Ka

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I never felt like my husband was too overly excited when I was pregnant. He was happy but when I constantly told him to touch my belly he wasn't always as excited as I was (which makes sense). But the second she got here he was so beyond in love and she's six months now and he's completely smitten! Don't worry😊 (yes it does look like he stole a baby, but I promise she is his hahaha)

An

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Men usually bond after pregnancy. They can't feel like we can. It's normal. 

Ch

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My husband only started showing interest  last week  am 36weeks . He loved when he saw my belly moving but otherwise 🙄

Fa

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Mine has tried a few times after I begged him to but hasn't been patient enough to feel anything. I about broke down crying when he told me he wasn't interested but after I explained my feelings to him and why it's so important to me he said he would keep trying. Hoping he sticks to his word cause I think if he did feel her kick it would change things for him a little in a good way. I am almost 35 weeks so he doesn't have much time left tho lol

Ev

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At 34 weeks I am telling my hubby "look you can see baby" he will put his hand on my stomach for literally 5 seconds and say "I don't feel anything" and give up. Sigh. His loss. I know he is excited, just not patient enough

Er

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My SO is very similar. He hasn't even heard the heartbeat or been to an appointment (though to be far they're about an hour long). Personally I don't mind and try not to worry about it. Men become father's once baby is born, so for now I get baby all to myself :)

Sh

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I'm at 25 weeks and the baby has been kicking around week 23. My husband isn't particularly interested either but he has felt "something" once. Basically I told him it feels like gas bubbling in your tummy that I got him to understand. Lol But you do have to remember they're not the ones growing a baby inside of them so we shouldn't expect them to feel the same as we do.

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Lol my husband does that same shit but I don't care. Men don't always care as much he just wants to have an hold the baby

Sa

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It will be different once the baby is born. He doesn't have the same connection as you to the baby because you are carrying it and it's different. 

As

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Give him time. For some men it doesn't kick in until they can physically see their child.