Young &want a divorce? help...

I'm going to give a little back story. We've been married for a little over a year. I've known him since I was a freshman in high school. I had a mc in June. It hit me super hard. But every time I went to him for comfort he'd reject me. Unless it was sex. I used to push it off like it was him grieving. But it wasn't. Because I realized he had always been like this. I just never needed him as much before. Ever since we were married for four months we fought. Divorce has been constantly brought up. If I say something snarky even jokingly he says "what was that? Divorce?"  He is ALWAYS on his phone. I'm not even kidding. On the toilet he has it, outside to smoke, watching his anime, laying in bed, eating EVERYTHING. He's either watching anime or playing video games. It takes him three weeks to finally do a sink full of dishes. I recently got him a dog for Christmas because he's been asking for one and he got super pissed at me because i picked it out (so I could surprise him). He constantly yells at me for it. He never cleans up after her (she's not potty trained.) He literally leaves her feces on the floor around the house. And yells at me when I ask him to pick it up. We've slept in the same bed once in the last week. Every time I talk or try to tell him what's bothering me, he mimics me. He doesn't clean up after himself at all. Plus I'm pregnant. I had a mc six months ago so we'll see if this one makes it. Lastly he's constantly telling me how much cheaper it would be if we were divorced. So that's what I'm planning to do. I just need advice. My closest family is six hours away. Husband is military. I'm fairly young. Has anyone gone through this? Advice? And marriage counseling is out of the question considering he refuses to go. Someone please help.