How Would You Feel About This

My roommates son has been failing 3 classes all year. He's in the 4th grade.

Every time she calls the teacher to ask about anything, the tells her that her son isn't paying attention. According to her son, who is on an IEP, tells us that he has a hard time understanding what is being taught, which is why he's been on the IEP since kindergarten.

He told his mom that his teacher told him to sit down when he asked to take one of the math assignments to his IEP teacher so he could understand it.

When my friend went to the school and asked his teacher about it, and she said that she wanted him to get into the habit of asking her for help instead of going to his IEP teacher.

The other day he came home with math homework. It was long multiplication. And the example the teacher gave is not how we had learned to do math. It made no sense at all. When I did the problem she used as an example the way I'm sure most of us was taught, I got a different answer. So I checked the calculator, and sure enough her answer was wrong.

She called my roommate yesterday because my roommate told her that she needed to send home directions with the homework or help the boy more at school if he doesn't understand. And his teacher said "well maybe you should be helping him more at home".

How is anyone supposed to help him though if she didn't send anything telling us the way he's supposed to do the work? She will teach them something that day, then send a worksheet home for them to do, but the sheet doesn't have any kind of explanation other than "multiply these numbers". The boy had just the one equation the teacher wrote for an example, which didn't even have the right answer.

I understand that teachers get frustrated too with parents, but after talking to parents who I see in the store I work at, this teacher is pretty known for not wanting to help the kids understand better.

But isn't it the teacher's job to teach? Like that's what they're paid for, and part of teaching means taking the time for the kids to understand the material, and helping if they don't.

My roommate is strongly considering pulling him from this school because of the teacher and after finding out that the woman has told other kids that she "doesn't have time to help them". At first we thought that her son was just fibbing about it, but now we know that the teacher really isn't willing to help.

What would you do if you were in this situation? I'm gonna tell her what other people think too.