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So I just had sex with my boyfriend for the first time, it was amazing, but unfortunately he couldn't finish because after a while, it did get too physically painful for me to continue, we lasted like a good 30 mins before the pain started. I'm still planning on going to the doctor, but I'm wondering if anyone else has gone through this? Mainly because I think it's his size, I've only been with two other guys, and he's a lot more bigger than them. Anyone knows if it's kind of normal??

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Probably normal, since you're already going to see a doctor I wouldn't worry. 
I lost my virginity and it didn't hurt at all, personally I think the guy I was with was just too small. 
When I slept with my now husband for the first time, it felt like he was ripping me open. So, the fact that you've been with others doesn't mean a thing. 😂

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I think something that makes a person's first time painful (aside from breaking of the Hymen which is only experienced by some) is 1. You aren't properly lubricared which causes discomfort especially after going at it for a bit or 2. Your vaginal muscles aren't relaxed. Your vagina dilates when you are relaxed/turned on to accommodate a penis. I would recommend in the future, spend more time on foreplay. You don't even have to do oral, making out and groping for a little while leading up to the sex is often enough for me to get nice and lubricated naturally. If you're on anti depressants or birth control, you might have trouble getting aroused enough for your vagina to lubricate naturally, this is something I have experienced. Good luck!

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Completely normal. I'm surprised you lasted 30 minutes lol. I think my first time was about 5 minutes. But then again he was done by then 😒

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When you go that long your body isn't producing the same lubrication it was earlier on. This happens with me and the hubs sometimes and it's just too long for me. After he's made me come multiple times I don't have much left in me. I feel bad cuz I know he just wants to keep going but it's just not happening.
If your still wanting to go longer, introduce lube when you feel like things aren't gliding as smooth

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