how do you cope with frustration.?

Question

I get so frustrated when I can't figure out why my newborn is crying.. but it kills me to hear her cry. When I get too worked up I set her down and walk away, but hearing her wail like that makes me bawl my eyes out.. can any moms give me advice? I'm a FTM so this is just a really big learning curve for me...

Answer

WINE!!! Lots of wine! 🍷 😅😂

Answer

Inhale through your nose, seal your lips, exhale through your nose.  Repeat until calm. Maybe place your baby on your chest as you are cultivating your ujjayi pranayama. It is rhythmic and sounds like ocean waves. It will lower your blood pressure and your baby will mimic your calm breathing. 🕉
You are doing a great job! You've got this!

Baby sign language is AMAZING! "More" was used the most. It saved us both tons of tears. 
❤🤗

Answer

I'm a ftm too and I freak out when I can't figure out what is bothering her or what she needs. Honestly I just hold her and kiss her. I hold her against my chest and sing to her or caress her back. She is almost three weeks now so we are more in sync with our communication/understanding.

The first night I spent with her I kept telling her that I'm sorry and crying my eyes out. Turns out her little nose was congested and she could not breathe well. Took me a few minutes to figure it out but my god it felt like hours. I was crying more than she was, I'm sure.

I suggest you check the obvious and if nothing works, just try to soothe your baby. I feel like sometimes they are just feeling lonely and need to be soothed to sleep.

Answer

1. Say the word 
2. Sign the word 
3. Follow through with action i.e. provide child with food.

Answer

Ours was like that for the first 4 weeks. Non stop. It gets easier. .
Right now everything is bothering them because they are not used to living on the outside. Tummies hurt, bad gas, extreme constipation, acid reflux, not liking the formula (if u do give formula). Every little thing is a complete shock. 
I do NOT belive in the term "colic" , and I'm sure that's what most will respond with. Babies dint cry for no reason.  They ALWAYS have a reason but can't tell us..
Our daughter has silent reflux  (it's like acid reflux but she didn't spit up. ) after many visits to her pediatrician and GI , they put her on zantac for babies.  It worked wonders.
Also, since nothing over the counter worked -like gas drops, gripe water,  probiotics etc, we also got her GI to give us prescription gas drops.  They also worked well.  
We give a bottle a day of prune juice half juice half formula,  to help with constipation. It also works well.
After her stump fell of and her bellybutton healed,  she gets a bath every single night. Lotion after so skin is nice and soft, warm clothes and off too bed. She's 13 weeks old. It's been a LONG and exausting road thus far, but she has stopped crying 24 7. She used to scream as if someone was cutting her.. for 6-10 hrs a day..  she did not sleep at night until 4 weeks. She hated her crib and her swings,  her mamaroo, her co sleeper attached to our bed,  she didn't want to sleep on me, she didn't want to sleep next to me on my bed... it was the hardest time of my entire life.
The only thing that saved me,  was my fiance,  who would do EVERYTHING around the house,  including cooking. ..and take her for a while , so I can take a long hot bath and shower. My sister moved in our 3 bedroom and helped during the day. ..my daughter cried ALL THE TIME. 
However,  around week 10 she started to become more like a...  human if that makes sense. She started to chill and love looking at everybody. .. she loves tummy time and has great head control. ..

Answer

I too get frustrated.  Deep breaths, putting her down for a break, music, reminding myself it's not permanent and she can't help it, walking around the house and texting someone about it.

how do you cope with frustration.?

The Top Baby Tracker App: Embrace New Beginnings with Tender Care

The Top Fertility Tracker App: Your Path to Achieving Pregnancy

The Top Pregnancy App: Nurturing Your Journey to Motherhood

The Top Period Tracker for Empowering Your Menstrual Health Journey