Hey guys, so I need yalls opinions and be honest. I'm a first time mom,  I will be 21 this year, my boyfriend will be 24. I'm 32 weeks pregnant & ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now. Im still living at home and my parents are helping us, but I'm having a issue with HIS mom and I need to know how to go about it. Ever since she has found out I was pregnant she has wanted to be involved in EVERYTHING. My first ultrasound, she was texting me telling me she wanted to come if my mom didn't. (Which I already had told her my mom was going). She was trying to come to my doctors appointments. Well then we decided we were going to do a gender reveal and it was only a little get together for my parents, my grandparents, his parents and brothers and for me and him. We weren't doing no BIG party. Well his mom got offended because my mom and I told her there was nothing that she could do. (Which their wasn't) it was only a box decorated and filled with balloons and a big black ballon filled with chalk. Well she got really offended and started making smart comments and saying we were leaving her out and was getting really pissed off because of that. So the tension was getting worse between the two families. Well then We've had several arguments between October and December due to others things. Well then on Christmas she posted a picture of a whole bunch of presents wrapped for our son. They were a whole bunch of hand me downs(IM NOT ACCEPTING HAND ME DOWNS) bc it's my first baby and wasn't raised on hand me downs. A lot of them had stains and a lot of them wouldn't even fit him by the time that season would be coming around. Also she had got a bed set off of a yard sale site and basically picked my theme out for me when I had already had my theme picked out at babies r us.  So I just smiled and acted like I was ok with it and took it home. But I wasn't. I ended up throwing it all away. Well then she ends up buying me a Pack and play off a yard sale site which was UGLY and very old and smelled bad. Not to mention she NEVER asked me if I liked it or if I even had one already. Well then the other day she has the nerve to text me and I had something on my registry and she goes "the same ones that's on your registry I found on a yard sale site, do you want it" so I told her I didn't want stuff I couldn't fully wash that babies could chew on bc of germs. And my boyfriend had told her I didn't want hand me downs... after I told her no.... she got it off the yard sale site and is giving it to me at my baby shower. She calls me ungrateful and says I'm not appreciative bc I told her I didn't want hand me downs... she has been the only one to get hand me downs. Every one else is getting me new stuff and I'm buying new stuff, and she's not even asking me if the stuff has been bought yet. She's just getting it and acting like she is the mother of my son 😑 what's yalls opinions and I ungrateful or do y'all understand where I'm coming from?