We are not married but my BF is saying he wants a Baby?

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He keeps rubbing my belly and saying how great it would be if we had a baby? He's 30 and wants kids I told him I want to be married before we have kid we been together for 4 years and are much in love but he wants the baby not marriage I don't get it? My best friend said thsts a red flag? But maybe he's just not the marrying kind? We said why get a peice of paper when we know our love? I don't know what to do??

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No ring, no baby. (Not implying the need for materialistic things, just using it for a figure of speech if you will.) I will not conceive ON PURPOSE if you are not my husband. If I'm good enough to have your children, I'm good enough to be your wife. Boom. 💣

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Personally I think a baby is a much bigger commitment then getting married. I'm 28 weeks pregnant with no current plans to get married and we've been together 5 years. Don't get me wrong Id love to get married but for us we'd rather spend our money on our little family rather than a big day... For now

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Well, for me personally I wouldn't have kids outside of marriage. It's not just a piece of paper, it's a binding legal symbol of the commitment you've made. It's an important agreement between you both stating your intent to be together for life. Without it, there's no more commitment to your relationship than how committed you both are right at this time. At any point one of you could walk away and the relationship would be dissolved. Marriage holds both partners accountable for the relationship. Plus, marriage is wonderful if you do it right. :)

Having kids is a 2-person job. Single parents the world over are wearing themselves out trying to do a job that's really designed for 2 people. Another thing you should consider is if your boyfriend is the kind of person who a would make a good father. Kids are serious business and you can't go back from it. And once you've made a child with someone you are inextricably linked to them forever, whether or not you stay together forever.

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I'm married but I hate when guys say that.... If it's JUST a piece of paper then why won't he make you happy and get that JUST piece of paper? Lol.

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I'm not married and TTC, it's all about what you want. You can be 100% committed to someone without marrying them, just as a couple can be married and not even be committed to each other.  I personally don't plan to get married and that's my decision, but if getting married is important to you then you should express that to him. It's your life and your decisions to live with.

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I would make him commit first. What makes you think he would commit to raising a child if he wont commit to you? Sorry to be blunt

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Marriage is more than a piece of paper. It's ridiculous for him to even say that. If marriage is important to you, then don't settle for less. Stand your  ground. You'll feel resentment towards him in the future if you have kids with him and never marry, which is something you want. Don't compromise your morals.

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If it's just a piece of paper, why not just go and get it?

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My dad taught me that if a man can lay with you and not feel as though you should be married then that's a sometime love

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Get married first. It's what you want or you will probably regret it

We are not married but my BF is saying he wants a Baby?

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