Crying it out?

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My LO is 11 weeks old. While I was in the hospital for a week my MIL would put LO to bed by laying her down awake and letting her cry and eventually falling asleep. I've been home 2 days and letting MIL put LO to sleep to see that she'll cry maybe 15-20 minutes and go to sleep? Would it be ok to let her cry from now on or is 11 weeks too early? My usual routine was to nurse her until her dad gets home from work and he holds her til she falls asleep. Our way takes longer than MIL way. Thoughts?

UPDATE: I knew I was right about 11 weeks being too young! But idk what I'm doing and this woman raised a lot of kids so I went with it. And her cries were really soft, almost whiney sounding. MIL would keep saying "aww she's fighting sleep" every time, even nap time. Now if she had gotten loud, red faced, stop breathing crying-- I definitely would've picked her up!! I felt like I didn't want to complain how she was doing things because we had no one who could've stayed at the house to watch her while I was in the hospital, I was just so grateful. I'm definitely going back to my routine tomorrow! And to answer someone's question, no LO doesn't take a pacifier.

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WAY TOO EARLY! You're not teaching your child to calm herself down, you're teaching her to give up....because nobody will answer her cries. Babies that young only cry when they have needs that need met. Please don't allow your MIL to continue.

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My son is 7 months and I still don't let him cry it out. I mean letting them whine a little is ok but actual crying no. That's just my opinion. They need us to comfort them until they can soothe themselves

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I'm not a huge supporter of the cry it out method. For me (not an attack on other moms), I've researched that this specific method teaches the baby that no one will come for them when they are crying. Crying is the only way a baby at that age can communicate, and it is up to the parent or care giver to interpret that cry and handle it accordingly. Other studies suggest that it promotes low self esteem in the baby as he/she grows up. There's so much more reasons and research on this form of parenting. With all of that said, I couldn't do that to my son. It was not something my husband and I could do and feel good about his crying. Every parent is different, and what works best for me may not work best for the next. I think your MIL was really wrong for doing this without your consent. Once you start the cry it out method, you really have to continue it and if you and your SO was not ready to do that, then she completely disrespected you. My mom watched my son when my husband and I went on vacation. We took a late baby moon vacay. My mom asked how I put my son to sleep, how I bathe him, how I feed him, etc. as to not disrupt his rout me or change anything while we were gone. I was happy to return home to find that out routine was still intact and he slept just find.

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It depends on the cry. I let my son self sooth but only with his one cry that I knew was him just fighting sleep. When his cry changed I used to look at my hubby and ve like "that's the next level time to get him". He was sleeping through the night (10+hrs, and only breast fed) by 9weeks. 
Just to ease your mind. My son has formed a very strong secure attachment with me and my hubby even though we used this method.

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I didn't allow pouting until 10mos myself

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My daughter is now 14 months old... if I let her cry it out she got herself so worked up she threw up everything in her stomach. She has no trouble falling asleep on her own in her crib now but it took a while. I'd lay down with her until she fell asleep and then put her in her crib. At first she only slept a couple hours in it. Then all night. Then I started putting her in it more and more awake. Now she only cries if her teeth are bothering her and I rock her to sleep and put her in her crib.

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I couldn't do it:( have you tried a pacifier?

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At 6 months I let my LO whine... I never leave her crying and I personally wouldn't have been able to at 11 weeks old ... I always rocked her to sleep or she fell asleep nursing. It does take a long time but (personally) I don't like the cry it out method 🙄😳 maybe when she's a little older I'll do it

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It's not recommended to do that until at least 4 months. Some articles I've read say 6 months. I personally am not a fan of the cry it out. I once read an article about why babies dont cry in orphanages and that ruined it for me lol

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I wouldn't, in my opinion it's to young to cry it out. But they did back then and babies survived. It's just my preference.

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