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I recently got remarried, very happily married for 5 months now. Let me just start with my husband and I both were in relationships where our spouses had cheated.
Thankfully we found each other. On another note, when my husband and I first got together he was in Georgia and I was in California working temporarily, when we finally saw each other after spending 3 months apart we had sex constantly. We still lived apart up until we were married 8 months later. We had sex 4-8 times a day, now I find myself crying in the bathroom because we only have sex maybe 1-3 times a week. 
My husband and I are very open with communication, we have a amazing relationship but he seems to think I only want a physical relationship. 
I love him, and I'm overly attracted to him to the point where I want him all the time. I take it personally when he doesn't try to have sex with me daily. He says he wants to lay with me and have more than just a sexual relationship. 
I can see what he means but what guy doesn't want sex all the time right? 
Help please

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Me and my SO were the same way when we first got together, but not as extreme lol. We had sex everyday or every other day though and I got used to that, so when we started having sex less often because my bf randomly loses his sex drive sometimes, I was sad and took it personally. But we talked about it and I realized it had nothing to do with me, and that he was still absolutely attracted to me, just not in the mood for sex. Not all men want sex all the time, and it's perfectly normal

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My hubby certainly doesn't want to have sex everyday, everyone is different in terms of sex drive.  We actually tried it once and made it two weeks before hubby asked to take a break, lol! He loves other types of intimacy too and they can be just as satisfying for us.  We definitely had more sex in college and have sex 1-2 times a week now, but you guys will need to decide what is good for you and your relationship.

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Everyone has different love languages. One of yours is probably physical touch. You probably feel most loved and attracted
To him when you're having sex. He doesn't see it that way. Sex probably isn't his first priority when it comes to you. You're not crazy, it just depends on who you are as a person and what you need. Look up love languages on google and find out what yours are.
Communicate with him and try to work something out.

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My fiancé is the same way. Which is fine I love that he's not basing our relationship on sex considering we weren't even suppose to be anything more that just fuck buddies that turned into more. At first it bothered me. Till I started falling even harder for him and even more. This is realized it's not just about sex. Sometimes cuddling and laying with each other is better intimacy than sex. I have a high sex drive to where as he dont. It's hard but we'll worth it. I wouldnt say you have a problem. You guys just think differently on sex. Work is prolly hard and taking a toll on him (don't know what you guys do for work) to where he's really tired all the time. Or maybe he's just stressed about something.

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I'm very similar. My husband finally had to explain to me that men wanting sex all sex all the time is a stereotype and while he loves having sex with me, sometimes his body isn't ready for it. So, we've had to compromise. I've asked him to not say no, but rather say he'd like to cuddle. That way, if sex doesn't happen, I wasn't rejected and we still have quality time together. Since making this deal, he usually is ready for sex by the end of the cuddling.

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I wonder if some part of your (or his) behaviour has someting to do with having been cheated on? This is just me kitchen psychology but are you with all this sex unconsciously trying to make sure that he won't cheat?

That being said I am actually the same way. I want more sex than my bf and I take It very personally when he turns me down. I am trying to learn that a balanced relationship where I am loved also in other ways than physically is wayyy much better than having sex daily.

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Just tell him how you fill

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