Mommies that are Nurses!

I need support, encouragement, advice, whatever positive thing you have to offer! 
I'm 32 weeks pregnant. Expecting our first rainbow baby. 
I work in a hospital, three '12's' a week on day shift. Im an RN. I'm having a c section at 39 weeks. I'm completely overwhelmed about what I'm going to do when I go back to work after I have the baby.  Work is always stressful, a lot of times I don't have time for lunch, I often leave knowing I didn't hydrate enough for me and baby. I hardly ever get to leave at 7:30 pm when I am supposed to. Usually it's around 8:30. Today I left at 9:30 pm. I got there at 7:00am!!!! 
How the heck will I have time to pump? Getting time to sneak away to pump and have someone watch my patients... is not going to be easy. I know it's only 3 days a week. But thinking about being away from her from 5am- possible 10 pm makes me heartbroken. 
I'm so tired of the hospital life and being overworked. Drama, stress... it's just nuts. This just doesn't feel worth it. I want to give my baby the best mommy. I just feel like me being constantly exhausted(physically and emotionally) from work will not be good for me or baby. I feel like it's time for change... but where? And obviously I can't change jobs right now because I'll lose insurance and no one wants to hire a very pregnant woman! 
I don't know what I'm going to do. 
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Ja

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I currently work in a nursing home. 8 hour shifts. If you get into the right nursing home because they all are not the same it can work out nice with a family. My full time job is a modified position so I work 52.5 hours every 2 weeks and it is considered full time with benefits and the pay is awesome. I make more there then my previous nursing home working 80 hours every 2 weeks. Now the previous nursing home was very stressful. It had 60 rehab beds and they pretty much took any patient. So some very sick and time consuming ones. So didn't always leave on time and hard to take breaks being the only RN in house. My new job there is always at least 2 RNs and 3 for 1st and 2nd shift. So if you would be interested just do your research and ask questions! One of the things I love about nursing....so many different options for us! Good luck

Da

Danielle β€’ Feb 7, 2017
*I worked in the hospital* also, I pumped every time so had a chance, sometimes in the radiology dressing room, or in a procedure room. I only had a dr walk in on me once! πŸ˜’

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Danielle β€’ Feb 7, 2017
I love my nursing home job. They are so much more accommodating for their employees because there are less of them. I would eked in the hospital with my first baby and went to two 12 hour shifts for the first 4 months back to work and was able to keep my insurance at a little bit higher of a rate.

Ma

Mary β€’ Feb 6, 2017
Thank you. I haven't considered a nursing home because of the horror stories I've heard from other nurses. But maybe there is one that would be a great option for me.

Le

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I quit my position in the hospital after the stress and anxiety from it, I'm guessing, caused me to have a seriously traumatic miscarriage. I have been doing home health and just started working as a home dialysis nurse and absolutely love it the hours are wonderful! I am in clinic most days 8-430 and my boss is very supportive of family life work life balance I love it! 

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Mary β€’ Feb 6, 2017
I'm happy for you! I hope I can find something that I love and that works with me being a mommy! Thanks:)

Le

Leila β€’ Feb 6, 2017
I didn't think so either but it is seriously interesting! I fee like I'm learning an entirely new discipline, I absolutely love it! And love getting to know my patients

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Mary β€’ Feb 6, 2017
That's sounds wonderful! Thanks for your input! Hospital life isn't family friendly. I've never done dialysis before! Idk if I could do it!

Mi

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One option is to try to get work in a dr's office. It's normal hours (around 9 - 5) and no crazy rushing around.Could you take your maternity leave then take extra leave without pay for another few months while you look for another job? It would mean you still have insurance and you won't have to go back to work so soon. And when you do go back it will be much better hours. And if money is an issue then cut out extra expenses now, before baby arrives. Cancel non essential services and down grade all services you're able to if you need to keep them (eg internet). Also, while you're on leave if you have a mortgage you should be able to drop your payments to only cover your interest for the time you need to take off work. If you're renting and paying a higher amount in rent then now is the time to find another home with cheaper rent.We have a family of 6 and live on very little income. As in technically below the poverty line. But we live a wonder, healthy and safe life with everything we could possible need just by being VERY careful about what we choose to spend money on. And I homeschool our children so we personally have the expense of all our educational resources.If we can make life work on little money, then so can you. Where there's a will, there's a way.

Mi

Miriam β€’ Feb 6, 2017
If you were home with baby you could cook dinner most nights πŸ˜‰ I think you should push the issue. This is your baby. And babies are only babies for such a small amount of time. Plus childcare is expensive. (I'm giving you some ammo here!!) so would it really be worth it? πŸ˜‰

Ma

Mary β€’ Feb 6, 2017
His car is paid off thankfully. Mine isn't and I have been wanting to trade it in for a used SUV since we moved. I'll give up anything for my baby. We do eat out a lot and I know that would save a ton of money if we didn't! I think we owe some money from when I had surgery so he stresses about that.

Mi

Miriam β€’ Feb 6, 2017
your credit cards etc. Its so easy to cut back spending if you put your mind to it. Quarter your grocery bill and stick to that etc. You'll be amazed at how much you don't have to be spending

M

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I went PRN. Currently 25 weeks along. I work 1-2 days a week. The pay is so much better and I pick my own schedule. My hubby has good insurance through his job so that didn't need to be a factor for us. It's allowed me to manage stress much better. And I feel healthier and am not dreading going back to work after maternity leave as much either. Good luck!

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M β€’ Feb 6, 2017
and i meant to say that if i work two days a week PRN i can make just as much as if i were a full time RN

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M β€’ Feb 6, 2017
*stay at home mom

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M β€’ Feb 6, 2017
i totally understand! thats exactly why i went PRN. i want to be a stay at home as much as i can be but dont want to lose my skills either. working one day a week will allow that for me. ☺ i think most PRN nurses cant get insurance but ive done the math and if i work two days a week i make just as much working full time. but i have the option to work less of i want. ☺

La

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What state are you in? I'm in CA, and will have have 12 weeks paid (st 55% non-taxed), and then I will be taking an additional 4 months unpaid that my hubby and I have budgeted for. When it comes to breast-pumping breaks, your job is required to give you adequate time. Do you have a break nurse or a resource nurse that can cover you during those breaks?If hospital life is getting to you, consider working in a clinic or a doctor's office. Or you could work to do triage over the phone (depending on your experience level). The only downside is that these jobs would have you working more days a week... like a traditional 9-to-5. 

La

Lauren β€’ Feb 6, 2017
Ugh, that's how it was when I worked in Indiana. It felt like I never truly had a break... I would be burnt out too! πŸ˜•

Ma

Mary β€’ Feb 6, 2017
Or come to the break room and interrupt my lunch. I just want my 30 minutes and be left alone. I don't even get that. It's frustrating!

Ma

Mary β€’ Feb 6, 2017
WV. The max time I can take is 12 weeks. I've been a nurse for 5 years, worked on this floor for 6 years. There is no resource nurse that could cover me. We are often short staffed. Even when I ask someone to watch my patients for lunch it's a headache and the physicians always call

Al

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I'm not pregnant yet (first ended in miscarriage) but that's major reasons I won't be going back to work. Remember you HAVE to get pumping breaks, review your state laws and don't be afraid to use them. Get a water bottle with oz measured, every hour try to just get back there and guzzle even 10-20 oz! Try to find somethig to reduce stress like yoga.