New relationship. Problem? Or am I needy?

Question

I just started dating my best friend of 12+ years. He has literally been there when I needed him for the that entire time. I was never attracted to him before for various reasons, and it changed one day and I have been insanely attracted to him since. Well I spend the weekend with him and stuff of occasion, I try to separate time with him and time with my daughter until I'm ready to put him in her life. Well now my question is this, we never cuddle, don't say 'I love you' and only kiss if one of us is leaving. I know that in a few years, that is how it will be, but right now I just want to cuddle and make out and just be all over him, but I'm nervous. Should he be more willing to do these things? Or should I just accept it? I can see myself with this man forever. Easily. He's perfect, except for lack of affection. And I know that I love him, I just have not told him yet : / So nervous.

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Okay so you said you just started dating this man right? My suggestion is give it time to build and grow into a stronger more affectionate relationship.. It's something new for you two and I'm sure he's still trying to grasp everything as you are as well! Remember good things take time. I know you two have been friends but it's very new for you two to be dating so it's kinda like meeting someone for the first time. I'd say just wait it out and if after a few months he still doesn't show any affection talk to him about it & let him know what you are feeling. Communication is key.

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Sounds like you are both nervous about leaving the friend zone physically, you need to talk to him and say what you want and need. It can take time to adjust to a new way to be around each other.

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No you should not accept, we literally have to train these guys. I know it sounds extremely harsh but not all... what am I saying ...most guys aren't going to be like the guys in the movies; the guys that just read us like a book and know our language. So, with that being said  ...talk to him. Let him know what you need, your needs are important! Always remember that and stay true to you. It's not like you're asking for a million dollars it's very simple and if he truly cares he will make the effort and start fulfilling your needs. Just talk about it with him, I had the same problem with my boyfriend..aND told him that I need the man to be there when I'm done and cheer me up, that I want to cuddle, and hold hands and I want him to open my door and etc. I also told him that if he couldn't then we wouldn't work... he decided that he wants me and that I'm worth it so now he does all that I asked. I know he's not perfect nor he can read my mind so I made it my job to tell him what I needed from him. 😊

New relationship. Problem? Or am I needy?

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