Am I terrible?

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My fiancé has a close friend named John (changed his name for the story) who has a fairly new girlfriend who he has been dating for about 3 months. Let's call her Kate. 
Okay. Kate has a child from a previous relationship who she doesn't see, doesn't really make much of an effort to see, makes excuses not to see etc. but posts on social media about how terrible her first child's dad is because he "won't let her see her kid" but I'm around her enough to know that's not true based off of this. And the reason why she is not legally the custodial parent, the ex is bc the child was removed from her via social services. There are many other details I will not take the time to explain unless someone has a question about something. 
Recently she found out she is pregnant. 😩 
She's happy and so is John.

Truthfully I cannot feel happy for them when that poor older child is sitting over at her dads house wondering why her mom doesn't bother! My fiancé says I'm wrong for that. Am I?

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You aren't wrong until you involve yourself in their business. Perhaps your husband sees it as wrong but knows to stay far away?

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It's really sad how often this actually happens. People who don't even take care of the kid(s) they do have always end up having more. It's a shame because there's people who really want kids and can't have them, then there's these people who don't care about theirs.

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You don't have to be happy for anybody you don't want to be happy for.
That being said you don't need to say anything to her...but you don't have to feel happy for them.

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No you're not wrong for feeling that way. But unfortunately we don't get to tell other people what to do with their lives so all you can do is be happy for the new life and cross your fingers she is a better mommy this time around. Maybe with this other guy she will be happier and it will make a difference in her relationship as a mother to her child with him. It shouldnt matter, but for some women it does. Just hope for the best.

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Completely hit the wrong button to vote! You are not wrong in feeling that way! If her other child was removed from her via social services there is a huge issue and she shouldn't have another child. She needs to fix things with the one she has first and become a good parent to that child first.

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You are entitled to your feelings. As long as you don't share them, you're good. It would be a bit out of place

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I know a girl who is 18 who has 2 children and the eldest turned 2 in January. She had her 2 children taken by social services as she wasn't looking after them, she refused to tidy the house, would leave them every night with the mother and decided that her stripper pole in her childrens bedroom was more important. This girl had the nerve to say that the next time she has children she will be a better mother and is now trying for a baby with her newest boyfriend. I find it so hard to slap the shit out of the girl every time I see her so no you're not in the wrong.

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You're not wrong at all.  It's just not your business.  But it is sad that her other child is being neglected by her and yet she gets pregnant.

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You're not wrong at all.  It's just not your business.  But it is sad that her other child is being neglected by her and yet she gets pregnant.

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Hell no. She obviously didn't take care of or care enough about her first child. I'd be concerned with this one. John doesn't sound like a very smart man, either if he wanted to have a baby with a woman who could care less about her child.

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