Friend's advice....

this is gonna be a little bit long so of you dont want to read you dont have to

im Just venting

An old "friend" of mine, we met when I was 21 she was 17, we where really best friends at the time, she got pregnant when she turned 18 obviously she came running to me desperate to tell me she had no idea what to do, she was too young and had no money, barely finishing beauty school, with bigger drems and from a very poor background, her dad left when she was little so she was raised by her mom only, she had her mind up that she was going to get an abortion, that she knew someone that could do it illegally, this was not in the US, I lived in mexico at the time, so imagine, I got scared cause the only thing I could think of was her safety and well being, since im a christian I don't believe in abortions, I'm pro life, she was too but she was too scared that this baby would change her life being so young, so I talked some sense into her and she decided to have the baby, i was supporting her in any way i could, besides the boyfriend wanted to marry her and help her out, rare case right? There are not a lot of man who actually want that when the girlfriend tells them they're pregnant! They run out the door. Well he was actually decent.

So they got married, thanks to me! And they had a girl, anyway I left town to go to a very far university to follow my dreams,she felt betrayed cause I left her and I think she was just a little jealous, over time she had another girl, and we kinda went in separate ways, I finished 2 careers, got a good job and we just talked to each other once in a blue moon, I met my husband and 2 years ago got married and moved to Hawaii where he got stationed, so 12 years passed by and she added me on fb last week, I was obviously surprised and excited to talk to her again, obviously she saw that I have a good life and she started asking me what about why am i not having kids yet, to all the woman out there that are tired of people asking that question tell me if it doesn't bother you that people try to get into your business, well I know she was my friend, but she doesn't know anything about me now, we've been trying for over a year and no luck, but I don't tell just anyone about that, cause I don't want people's pity, so when people ask me, I just say I'm not thinking about it too much, without going into details, or I just make a random excuse like when we get more stable economically or I don't need kids right now, but that's not the truth. I want an baby so bad! But I don't share that to everyone! Only really close friends and family.

So she had the nerve to tell me that she met a couple that waited for a long time and that they had a lot of things they wanted to accomplish first and when they wanted to finally have kids they couldn't, and now they are too old and that is going to happen to me, kids are wonderful and bla bla bla, she gave me a whole sermon, she told me "what is going to happen to you is that you re going to end up old and with no kids for just wanting to follow your dreams and waiting too long", WTF! So now I have a good life I did what I wanted, and accomplished everything I wanted, with a lot of effort and it was not easy.

And she accomplished nothing, over the Years her husband became abusive and she still with him, and she has 2 girls, so now... Am I being too sensitive? I feel like she just slapped me in the face with her words, what did I do to deserve that kind of treatment when I was there for her the whole time, She has her girl thanks to me! And now she comes and rubs in my face that I'm too old for kids and kids are a blessing and all that crap. Ooh and the best part that the couple she knew ended up splitting cause she couldn't gave her husband kids anymore, so he went and got a younger one and left her!

Like if she was telling me that my husband will leave me or like if she wishes that for me, for not having kids when I was young!

Sorry I'm just too mad!

Now I needed to get pregnant at 18 and have an abusive husband in order to be happy?!

Nooooooo!

I just think I'll never talk to her again!

Am I over reacting?

Am just hurt, and I don't feel like I need to explain that we have been trying cause that's just too personal, specially of I don't know you anymore.