"Wheen are you guys gonna have a baby?" Oh how I hate that question

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I don't know if it's just me but every time someone asks me that question my heart aches. If only they knew how long we've been trying, if only they knew the endless testing we've had done, the monthly pregnancy test we buy that are bfn each and every month,. How many times I've cried because I can't seem to give my husband a child. How many times he's hugged me as I've cried in arms. Sigh , sorry just venting

I will continue to fake a smile and answer when the Lord feels it's right for us.

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I will continue to fake a smile and answer when the Lord feels it's right for us.
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I'm sorry you're going through this... it sucks... me and my husband get a lot of questions, since it's well known he had a Vasectomy with his ex-wife, but we got it reversed a few months ago (but we are keeping it quiet until we conceive.).. and I have had so many questions, even from my mother in law "are you okay with never having kids of your own?" ... I hate it. My husband's bitter ex-wife even has told us "well it's too bad that Your wife won't have a family of her own." ... we decided not to tell anyone about the reversal because I didn't want people continuously asking me "did it work? Are you pregnant yet?" Because if it didn't work, it would've just upset me more.. stay strong, and even tell them how you feel and how it bothers you.

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This is why I never ask people that. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. You don't know how much other people want and yearn for a baby only to have af come another month. It just seems like such a personal question to me. It's not like you're asking "oh do you want more kids?" Idk. It bugs me and I don't have any kids with no plans to any time soon 🙃

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My husband's dad does this all the time. I don't know how to tell him to stop without his family getting all in our business. I feel like he means well but I hate it and it hurts.

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I totally feel you!!!! Or you get 'you're not pregnant yet?!?!' 'You're clearly not doing it right!!!' Or the best one 'you're not having enough sex then!'

But like you said it'll happen when it's supposed to happen and I wish people would just leave you alone and not ask. Rant over 😄😄😄

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I always just tell people the truth and then they feel stupid. Works every time.

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I am totally in the same boat!! Family and friends all meaning well but in fact not helping !!

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I used to get "you still not pregnant, what you playing at?" And my SIL telling me they tried and conceived that first week and his mum telling me its probably her sons fault he's always been a let down 😐 well after 6 months we finally had a positive test and since I have been pregnant her son has been the best with me and he's never been a let down, he just needed to mature x

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We've been married 8 years and everyone know we want kids. I turn 30 this year and people are starting to ask when we are going to have them. I just say, we want kids eventually" and leave it at that. I don't want to tell people we are ttc because it's none of their business. This is our 2nd month ttc. I don't want people knowing we are trying because what if we find out we can't after a while of ttc. I wouldn't want ppl knowing I'm barren either. I would rathe if people can't help themselves that they just ask if we want them and not put an age limit in it.

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Girl you are not alone!!! 2 years and 1 miscarriage later after being married 4 years now and every time I get asked it gets harder... good luck!!!

"Wheen are you guys gonna have a baby?" Oh how I hate that question

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