Do you agree?

First topic: sex

When it comes time for our children to learn about sex (probably around middle school age) we will teach them everything we think they need to know. From condoms to stds. From rape to consensual sex. From birth control to abortion. Literally everything they need to know. When they come to us and tell us they are ready, we will do whatever we have to to make sure they are prepared and they have as safe sex as possible because let's face it, they're going to do it anyways. If we catch them doing it in the house, we won't yell or tell them not to. Because we would rather them have safe sex under a safe roof than do it in a car or in the woods somewhere. We will not teach our children abstinence because that accomplishes nothing in our opinion. 

Next topic: drinking 

When our children are of age (high school) and they want to try something, we will allow them to experiment at home (in moderation) we would rather them have their first beer in a safe home than run off to a party and drink too much then get into a lot of trouble. If they want to go to a party, they will also be allowed once they prove they are ready. They also have to call their dad or I in case anything happens and we will be the ones to come and get them. 

Next topic: grounding

When our kids get into trouble, we will not take their phones away or not let them see their friends. We will make them do work around the house to "pay" for what they did. Taking their things away only makes kids resent you more. If you make them complete a task instead, they are more likely to learn their lessons. They won't want to mow the lawn or clean the bathroom, so they will be more inclined to do the right thing. 

Next topic: chores

Our kids won't have strict chores they have to do daily. If I ask them to do something, they will be expected to do it then and there. But I have children to love them and raise them into good human beings, not as maids. They will be expected to clean up after themselves and that's it unless asked to do something extra 

Next topic: work and extra curriculars 

Our children will be expected to have at least one extra curricular activity they do after school or a job. If they have a job and they want a car (we will buy the car as a present) they will be expected to pay us for the insurance which we will put into a savings account for them and give to them once they turn 18. This way, they learn responsibility and receive a reward for doing so. They will also have to put gas in their own cars 

Next topic: college

They will have to do something after high school. If it's college, cool. If not, they will be expected to find some kind of career they want to pursue. 

This is how we want to parent our children. If thee anything you agree of disagree with? If so comment below. I'd like input from those who are already parents who can tell me what worked for their children. Thanks!