Mixed Emotions?

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Anon because I'm a little embarrassed I feel this way to be honest.

We tried for this baby, and we love it so much. But sometimes, I sit here, and I get very depressed just thinking about being a mother. I wanted a baby and after a few miscarriages it didn't seem possible. Now, I'm almost done with my pregnancy and I'm starting to get anxiety.  What if I can't take the sleep deprivation? I feel so selfish, I just feel like I sometimes don't want motherhood. My mom or family will start talking about the baby and I just want to change the subject. Sometimes it just makes me uncomfortable. But yet I am totally excited at the same time! We schedule extra ultrasounds to watch his growth and I love seeing him. ...

I guess these are just hormones. But I just needed to vent, and maybe some other mom can reassure me that this feeling goes away?

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Don't beat yourself up about how you feel. We tried for 7 years to have a baby, I just passed my due date yesterday (she is apparently very comfortable staying where she is), and I still have down periods and doubts. I wanted this baby more than just about anything in my entire life but my emotions are completely all over the place. I think it's a combination of the hormones, uncertainty, and magnitude of change that we are going through. Hang in there, try to be kind to yourself, and remember that just because you aren't ecstatic 100% of the time, it doesn't make you a bad person or mean that you don’t love your baby.

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Totally felt guilty for "feeling trapped" even though we had tried so hard for the baby! The book Mindful Birthing was helpful to me when other pregnancy books were overwhelming.

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I can say I'm sorta in the same boat as u! First baby due in 3 weeks after repeat miscarriages and lots of trying and on one hand I'm SO overjoyed and so impatient/excited to meet him. On the other hand I'm scared and nervous about the changes it will bring to life and my marriage and my personal goals. I will also be an older mom (late 30's) starting the parenthood journey late, so I am acutely aware of the aspects of life that will be lost or changed now with a baby. So grateful I had a chance to travel a lot, get educated and establsh my career while I was in my 20's and feel so much more grounded and ready for baby now, but also don't want to give all those things up either! I keep getting all the stories of "oh you just wait, you don't know what tired is, your body will never be the same, your will hate your husband, your goals will change etc etc" I'm sure people are just trying to warm me of the challenges that might come but it's starting to make me feel dread in some ways!
I think we just need to meet our little ones and have that mysterious and magical flood of love happen, that right now we can only speculate on. I know it will be hard but it will also bring so much joy and light that we don't even realize yet. I am holding onto that.
I think it's normal to feel this way! Even with a marriage to the right person people get cold feet/jitters just from over thinking and all the anticipating and babies I believe can be the same way. This is what I'm telling myself:) Trust that your greatest adventure and purpose are just around the corner and believe in yourself. You can do this!

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I kind of felt how you felt especially when people would start talking about the baby and I would change the subject and when I had her this was my first by the way I was so protective over her my mom my exes mom and no one held her no one touched her and when they did I hated it. It actually ruined my relationship with my ex mother-in-law but oh well it's over with. She's now 7

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I think it's completely normal to feel that way. I'm 35 weeks and depending on the day I get really overwhelmed and anxious about it too. I'm so excited and feel blessed but it's also scary! I think we feel this way because what is happening/ about to happen (becoming a mother) is the most important job in the world and with that comes a lot of worry and pressure. 
When baby comes you'll have days when you probably think "what the heck have I done" 😂 but that's okay too. If it progresses or gets worse I would definitely talk to your doctor.

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If you haven't discussed this with your doctor You need to.

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I'm sure it's just hormones and the anxiety of being a new mother. Maybe look at ways to de stress and relax and do things you enjoy, even if it's just reading a book, painting your nails, having a bath, it can help with anxiety. There's always the option of speaking to a counsellor? You'll be fine though, best of luck ☺️

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Yeah I was exactly the same a few month ago. Im also near the end of my pregnancy but about 3 months ago i had a bleed (after sex) and it was pouring out ..my SO rang an ambulance and i was absolutely distraught and it made me realise how much i want this baby and how much i love him. Before that happened though i felt exactly the same as you and it is normal. Some women might not feel like this but a lot do because its such a big change, all the responsibilities and the fact you're going to have a little person depending on you forever is terrifying. But im sure once you're baby is here all that will go away. I still get scared but i know its going to be amazing.... good luck anyway :)..

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