I need a bit of advice
My love language is quality time and my husbands is physical touch and words of affirmation.
I try my best to make an effort to rub his back, touch his chest, hold his hand or his arm, hug him, nuzzle his neck, etc. He always says "I love when you touch me" and it makes me happy to make him happy (I also do enjoy touching him). I also write him love notes a couple times a month in this little notebook I have going for him and send him random messages telling him how much I love him, miss him, and appreciate him. I tell him I'm proud of him. I do try really hard to fulfill those needs.
Lately, however, I feel as though my needs are not fully being met and it's upsetting.
He has been working a lot of overtime and extra days which has severely cut back on our quality time together. It's not his fault and I can't blame him - he's in the middle of pushing for a promotion that is very needed and it HAS been paying off. However, I can't help but feel like I've been put on the back burner a bit.
He comes home every night and spends time with me, he's doesn't go out. But often during the little time we do have together he will be on and off the group chat with the other managers, talking about work thing and joking around. A huge topic of our conversations are based around funny/stressful/interesting things that happened at work or between him and his coworkers. I understand it... he spends most of his time there so naturally, he will talk a lot about it. I am interested, I do care and want to know. I want him to talk to me. But with the unequal division of time right now, it makes me feel disconnected. I'm not a part of that space in his life and the space I do have is rather small these days.
There's nothing fishy going on with him or anyone from work. I'm not at all worried about that, that's a nonissue. I just need advice on how to get through this while his time is being unevenly divided without growing resentful of it. If that make sense? I'm struggling. My glass feels less than half full these days.
I know I likely sound terribly selfish. I feel guilty for feeling the way that I do. That's why I'm asking for advice. Thanks ladies!
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