Help 😔

So my husband and I were talking lastnight about babies and loss (my close friend just lost her 1 month old baby to sids 😭😢(and we both have dealt with those calls in our work as we are in law enforcement ) Out of the blue he tells me that if we were to lose a baby mid term or even early that it would be very hard for him to even want to try again. Then he said that if we find out that once I am pregnant our baby is terminal or severely handicapped or if we ever lost a baby someday to sids that he would be done and there would be no attempts to ever have a kid again because he couldn't handle that. 😔 I understand how he feels but now I feel IMMENSE pressure for any pregnancy that does happen (we are currently in ttc window) to be perfect 😢 I know that things happen in pregnancy all the time and that loss is very common..it just makes me not want to tell him when we do get a BFP until its past the 16wk high miscarriage time period.