My 15 year old o my

Well I start with saying I am one of 4 my mom had my twin brothers at 17 and I think when we got to a age she just said buck it as long as I feed them and get them what they "won't" I can do what I won't and got real laid back her and her now husband that none of us can stand and many boyfriends on the side she was real open bout things now I saw my brothers do a lot of crazy thing like a hole in the wall so people could watch each other with girls in there room a chick was drunk as all can be (she came over that way) but passed out so ( there was always bout 6 boys round never just the two if them) they cut her hair and put her in a which costume with a broom and sat her in a chair in her front year I even walked in the house one day and bout 6 of the were on the knees at the coffee table with a ruler mom still has that coffer table have never looked at it the same but...I now have two boys and two girls the Boys are 15 & 12 the girls are 3 & 2 I know what was I thinking I was almost there but at least there girls this time and who ever says girls are easier and we treat all kids the same no and no but I think what my mom did made me a little harder on my boys do far he is 15 he has a phone but only works with Wi-Fi it's my old iPhone we don't do facebook snapchat or any of those things so I don't let him he don't day anything and he had text apps that he uses to get his friends and got lots of music and games so he good but I took it from him he other day he didn't do what I asked and was playing a game on it didn't have any plans on going through it now this is we all have that child the "good" one the yes sir yes mam gets a and b's plays basketball and football and cross country the only thing I get from him is the 15 year old attitude the eye roll teeth suck the didn't mean to run into the wall cause you asked me to take out the trash which I shouldn't have to ask you have two I said TWO chores trash and to keep room clean but I took it the other day was not going to go through it but I did didn't find anything out of place but then.....his friend girl he has had since 5th grade for it five years now o well but I found there messages back and fourth and o my my my my my one more time MY it was like reading the next fifty shades with out the red room I still don't really know what to do I text her and told her I found them and I don't know what to do but I am gou g to do something I think that I am still in shock so I need a little help I done the talk and I know it's going to happen just not now I know he 15 I have already had a thing where I would find the good lotion behind the trash can in the bathroom and started to question things then git so far and didn't really won't to know more now I just leave a cheap brand there I mean the thing with his friend girl what to do I mean we talk all the time about that kind of stuff cause he is 6'4 15 cute plays all kind if sports good grades and very polite to everyone we all know them few girls in highschool that will give it just cause of that I won't him to know about the one before it happens but thanks for reading g my long post and letting me vent some we are a what happens here stays here kind of family so to vent sometimes it makes me fell good so thanks for reading agaun