Do you think BDSM can strengthen a relationship?

Question

At the core of any healthy BDSM play is communication, trust, and honesty. You don't just randomly strap your partner down or get rough, but rather you set boundaries, safe words, and channels for open communication.
So with all of the communication needed to safely take part in BDSM play, do you think it could strengthen a relationship? Of course this is assuming both parties are willing and interested in BDSM for the right reasons.

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In a safe, sane, consensual BDSM relationship that is completely healthy...yes absolutely. There is a LOT of trust and communication involved, and a lot of mutual respect as well.
Anything outside of that though, no.

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I think it depends on the relationship.

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Obviously you will run into people who ignore the safe, sane and consensual rules, or are generally abusive, but yes, if it was consensual and everyone respected boundaries, it can be very beneficial to a relationship.

Most people who participate in BDSM crowd are usually much more open and willing to communicate.

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I'm sure it can for some, but a lot of the time it's done wrong. When my ex and I started dabbling in it, he thought he owned my body and thought that he could hit me outside of the bedroom. It just depends on the people. My fiance and I dabbled in it and he's never went balls to the walls crazy with it.

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I read a story about a rape victim who was into BDSM type stuff.

She said she liked it because, first of all, rape was her introduction to sex, so anything less intense just didn't seem like sex to her, and that secondly, BDSM was a display that showed that her partner COULD hurt her, but won't because he loves and trusts her.

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Yes but it depends because there has to be A LOT of communication and boundaries from both parties. If one of them is slacking on that it can do more harm than good.

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It depends on the relationship, but it's definitely strengthened our trust. I don't like when people touch me except my s/o, because I think they'll hurt me.

We started exploring BDSM last year, and I can trust him to put his hand around my neck without cutting off oxygen/leaving marks/getting carried away. I can trust him to spank me, and not lay a finger on me after sex, and I can trust him to know when to stop, or at least know when he's hurting me.

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It really depends on true relationship

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It can assuming that there is open communication, and they respect the boundaries and rules put into place.

My SO and I dabble in BDSM and it has helped our relationship. We are much more open with each other.

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I voted yes but it really depends on the person. While I've never been in a direct BDSM relationship, I was and still am in a ddlg relationship which is a branch off of BDSM. To submit to someone, that requires an extreme amount of trust and communication. While the sub does have, in a sense, more power in the relationship where they have to set soft/hard limits and safe words, they are still trusting in the dom to have almost complete control over your body in said times. A lot of people may not be able to handle that but it's been so rewarding for me. I never knew how deeply I could trust someone before, I never understood the bounds my love could go until I submitted to my SO.

Do you think BDSM can strengthen a relationship?

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