Binge drinking???

Question

So me and my so have been together over 5 years now and we're expecting our first child, currently I'm 31 weeks pregnant with our little girl.

However, for as long as I have know him he is incapable of going out for a few drinks and I'm seriously starting to think he has a binge drinking problem.

The worst is when he goes out tells me he'll be home by 11 say and then doesn't roll in until 7 or 8 in the morning, no text, no phone call to prewarn me he's not coming home. So in my pregnant state wake up in a panic in the middle of the night worrying something has happened to him, I ring him no answer causing me not to be able to sleep because I'm so worried.

Same thing yesterday, drinks with work, initially said he wasn't staying long and would be home at 9pm but said he was having a good time and would like to stay a bit longer but didnt want to upset me, so me being nice I said okay no problem have fun just make sure you don't miss the last train home and don't roll in at 2 in the morning.

What time does he come in? 7 in the morning, I can't take it anymore!! No apology, no explanation not even any need to explain anything like he's entitled to do this. This has completely destroyed my trust for him and even starting to have doubts of whether he's sleeping with other women and that's why he doesn't come in until morning and doesn't contact me.

I think either he's sleeping with other women or he's got a binge drinking problem because nothing I say seems to make any difference, or is it me that's in the wrong?

Answer

That would not fly in my house. Of course he is entitled to live his life as he pleases, but maybe he should've thought about what he actually wanted to be doing with his life before he got you pregnant and decided to bring a child into the equation. I think you have every right to be pissed off about this. I could understand going out a few nights a week before the baby comes, that's pretty normal behavior… But going out a few nights a week and not coming home until 7 AM, is not OK. If this were my fiancé, I would tell him that this is not what I want for my family and that he is more than entitled to live his life the way he sees fit, but not in my house if those are the decisions he's making. I need to feel safe in my relationship. Coming home at 7 AM has a funny way of making a woman feel insecure about her relationship. I was in a relationship with someone before I had children who would come home seven, eight, even 9 AM and unfortunately I found out he was doing drugs all night into the morning at his friends house and eventually I just could not live like that anymore. In my current relationship, this only happened one time… And my fiancé called me at 2am for a ride home because he was at his friends house too drunk to drive home and I told him just to stay there. It never happened again in the entire almost 6 years we've been together.

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My boyfriend has a drinking problem and he Denies it every time. He will go through a big bottle of rum a week. He has about 3 shots a night

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Definitely not you who is wrong. My oldest children's father use to do this same thing. For the longest I thought he must just be getting to drunk and passing out. Until other females started answering his phone and let me know he was sleeping. Come to find out he was living a whole separate life I didn't even know about. He had other children by 2 different women and a paternity test for another. We were together for 10 years and he had a whole other girlfriend for about 3 of those years. I hope this is not the case but you do need to have a serious talk with him and let him know this can't continue.

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