AF was due 4/17. Still BFN. Anyone else? Any hope?

Ashley • Wife • Mummy • Wyatt (4.14.16) & expecting baby girl Abbey (4.17.19)
Healthy 28yo, married, ttc baby #2. 
2O dpo, cd 41. 
I'm starting to get worried what with no AF and all these BFN
Haven't tested with FMU yet though. Would it even make that much of a difference at this point? 
Looking for a cycle buddy in a similar sort of situation. 
Help. 😥